Died 1.5 years ago, no one noticed... SO sad...

[Megs]

I think it is terribly sad that even if someone isolates themselves, they are forgotten.

[princessaj0603]

Oh that is so sad...to think she died alone and sad...poor thing

[lorihmatthews]

One thing to remember is that in instances like this oftentimes the victim is suffering from mental illness or dementia. This may have explained her behavior. So even if she was horrible to those around her we should remember that she may have been mentally ill. With many cases, victims refuse to reach out to friends and family, often shunning them. Sadly, sometimes there is nothing you can do.

[IntlSet]

Originally Posted by lorihmatthews

One thing to remember is that in instances like this oftentimes the victim is suffering from mental illness or dementia. This may have explained her behavior. So even if she was horrible to those around her we should remember that she may have been mentally ill. With many cases, victims refuse to reach out to friends and family, often shunning them. Sadly, sometimes there is nothing you can do.

Agree. Yes, there are some people who are nasty to others simply because they're evil people who simply like being nasty but I think those people are few and far between. More often than not, those who are nasty to others simply are that way because it's a reflection of how they feel: angry, sad, etc. EVERYONE has a story to tell if you take the time to listen to it. There's always a reason for everything.

[GUCCI_COOCHIE]

Such a sad story. =(

[jenarae]

I agree that it is very sad she was forgotten but when people tried offering her help and some attention she turned people away many times...so honestly those people got tired and decided to give her what she wanted...to be alone.

[b00mbaka]

Originally Posted by Glamfoxx

Okay, then allow me to reword my post. It is sad that this woman died alone, but after the way she treated the people around her, it is not surprising that she was not discovered for a year and a half.

ITA! She intentionally became a hermit and out of respect she was left alone by family & neighbors. It is hard to help someone that refuses, so I hope her death was something that could not have been prevented or sadly her solitary was a form of suicide

[Speedy]

This is a sad story, I believe had the police broken in when the neighbors claimed there was a foul odor, she would have been found sooner. Sometimes, especially in the winter months, you cannot smell decaying flesh with just a whiff or two. But the neighbors calls should have been proof enough that she was either missing or possibly dead. It's sad, so many people who could have done something failed her.

Grief often sends people into their own self-determined exile, for whatever reason. Perhaps after her husband left her, she no longer trusted people (I know how that feels!) and stopped trying to be friendly.

And there is a difference between "being a b***h" and just wanting to be left alone, so one ignores or brushes off contact with others.

[Sarsi]

Such a sad way to go....
and she seem to have lived her last years in grief too...

I pray she finally finds her peace in the after life...

[keodi]

Originally Posted by Glamfoxx

Yeah it's sad, but she died of natural causes Sorry, but this post was uncalled for. Have a little compassion. Please. --Roo

yes, but she died and her own family didn't even check on her to see if she was alright NOBODY deserves to die and be forgotten like that. This poor lady had family!

[amanda]

Glamfoxx, it wouldn't surprise me at all if you've never had a loved one die after a long bought with dementia of one form or another. For those of us that have, calling someone like that names is cruel and aggressively ignorant. It's a behavioral manifestation of a physical illness over which they have absolutely NO control. Would you call someone with cancer an a-hole? Would that just be your 'opinion' as well?

Her family should be ashamed of themselves.

[Roo]

Originally Posted by amanda

Would you call someone with cancer an a-hole? Would that just be your 'opinion' as well?

My guess would be 'yes', Amanda

[elizabethk]

I feel sorry for the lady.
But there are a few questions left unanswered...
who paid for the mortgage? or property taxes?
Surely if something like that wouldn't go undiscovered....

[spiralsnowman]

Originally Posted by IntlSet

Agree. Yes, there are some people who are nasty to others simply because they're evil people who simply like being nasty but I think those people are few and far between. More often than not, those who are nasty to others simply are that way because it's a reflection of how they feel: angry, sad, etc. EVERYONE has a story to tell if you take the time to listen to it. There's always a reason for everything.

I agree w/ IntlSet. Everyone has moods, but as a culture I think we should expect more of ourselves than to let someone who is isolated slip further away.

I know this will sound wierd, but speaking from personal experience, sometimes people just need help forced upon them, whether they want to accept it or not. I've been there, and that's what helped me.

[Neeya]

Originally Posted by Roo

My guess would be 'yes', Amanda

That's completely uncalled for Roo, and I think as a mod you should know better- people are entitled to their opinions, and that was HARDLY up to par with some of the other stuff I've seen on this forum in the last year. Many won't agree with her, I don't, but it isn't your place to tell her what is cruel and what is not. It's extremely unfair of you to censor her opinion and then behave rudely/snarky about it.