Want to share this story for the TTC Team

VT Pooh · Mar 20th, 2008, 11:09 PM

Hi Ladies,

I just read this in the MSN site. I think it is worth to read for the TTC team.

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationshi...6506501&page=1

Baby Dust to everyone!!!

VT Pooh

beejerry · Mar 21st, 2008, 02:30 AM

This is so true:

Forget spontaneity; as soon as we started trying to conceive, sex revolved around Carolyn's ovulation.

tabbyco · Mar 21st, 2008, 10:57 AM

I didn't get a chance to read the whole thing...

My thoughts:
-Men don't know how to deal with this any better than we do but at least we can talk about it with friends in similiar situtations or on forums like this
-There needs to be a balance to keep from becoming obsessive about the whole process (I am often challenged by this).
-Appreciate your husband as the person you married, not as the father of your future children, that objectifies him and creates distance.
-Having parents pay for Infertility treatment is a sticky situation.

On another note, I was watching an Oprah re-run w/Dr. Oz and an audience full of men and there was this one guy who BROKE HIS PENIS

b/c his wife was demanding they BD b/c they were TTC. Well he wanted to go fishing so he just wanted to get it over with and "make his deposit" and POP.... he broke the thing

!! He had an operation to have it fixed and today he has 2 children, but the lesson I took from this was, "Don't force your husband to BD or he could break his penis!!!".

beejerry · Mar 22nd, 2008, 02:43 AM

Broke what?

I think it's a "manhood" thing not to discuss infertility issues with other men.

tabbyco · Mar 23rd, 2008, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by beejerry

I think it's a "manhood" thing not to discuss infertility issues with other men.

I agree... I was talking to a friend last night who knew of a couple that was having a hard time getting pregnant and the women had confided in her they went through many cycles of IVF, after trying IUI, drug, etc. When they were announcing their pregnancy they man says to my friends DH, "We weren't really trying" ...

VT Pooh · Mar 23rd, 2008, 08:22 PM

Wow!!!!!! "We weren't really trying......."

A few of my good friends know we were trying. When I finally got pregnant, I told the ladies who had been trying that it took us 7 months. I don't know what DH tells people. I know guys don't about those much.

beejerry · Mar 24th, 2008, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by VT Pooh

Wow!!!!!! "We weren't really trying......."

A few of my good friends know we were trying. When I finally got pregnant, I told the ladies who had been trying that it took us 7 months. I don't know what DH tells people. I know guys don't about those much.

He probably says he got it the very first try!

Mar 21st, 2008, 02:30 AM	#2
beejerry A Blondie Gal! Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Silicon Valley Posts: 7,089	This is so true: Forget spontaneity; as soon as we started trying to conceive, sex revolved around Carolyn's ovulation. __________________ no expert, just personal opinion. ~ Always have room for a Blondie ~

Mar 21st, 2008, 10:57 AM	#3
tabbyco Quirrel! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Right Coast Posts: 2,174	I didn't get a chance to read the whole thing... My thoughts: -Men don't know how to deal with this any better than we do but at least we can talk about it with friends in similiar situtations or on forums like this -There needs to be a balance to keep from becoming obsessive about the whole process (I am often challenged by this). -Appreciate your husband as the person you married, not as the father of your future children, that objectifies him and creates distance. -Having parents pay for Infertility treatment is a sticky situation. On another note, I was watching an Oprah re-run w/Dr. Oz and an audience full of men and there was this one guy who BROKE HIS PENIS b/c his wife was demanding they BD b/c they were TTC. Well he wanted to go fishing so he just wanted to get it over with and "make his deposit" and POP.... he broke the thing !! He had an operation to have it fixed and today he has 2 children, but the lesson I took from this was, "Don't force your husband to BD or he could break his penis!!!". __________________

Mar 22nd, 2008, 02:43 AM	#4
beejerry A Blondie Gal! Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Silicon Valley Posts: 7,089	Broke what? I think it's a "manhood" thing not to discuss infertility issues with other men. __________________ no expert, just personal opinion. ~ Always have room for a Blondie ~

Mar 20th, 2008, 11:09 PM	#1
VT Pooh Member Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 445	Hi Ladies, I just read this in the MSN site. I think it is worth to read for the TTC team. http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationshi...6506501&page=1 Baby Dust to everyone!!! VT Pooh

Mar 23rd, 2008, 08:22 PM	#6
VT Pooh Member Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 445	Wow!!!!!! "We weren't really trying......." A few of my good friends know we were trying. When I finally got pregnant, I told the ladies who had been trying that it took us 7 months. I don't know what DH tells people. I know guys don't about those much.