Telling people

tabbyco · Apr 10th, 2008, 04:43 PM

Do you ever get in a conversation and mention that you are trying TTC and then afterwards totally regret it??

I don't know WHAT is my deal, but I feel compelled to tell just about every pregnant women that I am TTC. And after the conversation I am like "Why can't you STOP telling people!!" It is like I have diaharrea of the mouth and just can't restrain myself.

Then, when I don't get pregnant I feel SOOOO stupid. And I hate that I have told so many people... oh well... I guess that will just make it that more exciting when it does happen, 'cause I will have ALOT of people to tell.

pinkdot · Apr 10th, 2008, 05:53 PM

I also told many people as well and i wish i hadn't. Hubby didnt like it at all. He said it's something personal, and shouldn't have been shared with other.

Cuz, of course no one told me that they were TTC..and i felt stupid. Also, everytime i went to NJ, people asked, soo any good news??? that was an annoying question.

mssmelanie · Apr 10th, 2008, 06:14 PM

I am so the same way! Now I wish that we didn't tell anyone about the treatments because of course everyone wants to know how it's going or how the IVF, IUI's went.. And of course they all didn't go well and I just break down and cry when they ask me! But over time, it's gotten easier.. they pretty much know not to ask anymore...

Faith · Apr 10th, 2008, 08:31 PM

We haven't really told anyone that we're TTC. Not even my own mom!

chodessa · Apr 10th, 2008, 09:29 PM

I am the opposite.
I find myself just telling people that we are "thinking a lot about it"...
I am so superstitious ONLY where TTC is concerned. I feel like if I tell people we are trying, then I will jinx it and it won't happen, or I'm going to have problems.
That's such an illogical way of thinking, I know, but I guess I am a tad neurotic concerning this topic..

sarahsar · Apr 11th, 2008, 08:54 AM

I find also that people, even just acquaintances, will often ask a lot about TTC, not knowing what kind of can of worms they are opening. "So aren't you all going to start a family?" Or "When are you going to have another one?" Or my grandmother asking my mother, "Does Sarah just not want to have children?"

It's such a loaded question. They don't want to hear, "Well, we would just be delighted if the stork would pay us a visit, but that pesky bird has cost us about $40,000 and in 6 years we've been lucky to see him once, so I'm just not sure when we'll see him again."

I usually just mumble something about "when the time is right," but it always feels kind of dishonest.

jenniletv · Apr 11th, 2008, 09:32 AM

I do feel the same way. Now each month they always ask "So....how's it going?" Or " have you started yet?" It never ends and I should have kept my mouth shut!!

tabbyco · Apr 11th, 2008, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkdot

I also told many people as well and i wish i hadn't. Hubby didnt like it at all. He said it's something personal, and shouldn't have been shared with other.

My DH would DIE if he knew all his personal info was on here! He too thinks I need to keep my big yapper shut (my words, not his).

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Originally Posted by pinkdot

Cuz, of course no one told me that they were TTC..and i felt stupid.

That is the other thing that drives me crazy (I could start a thread on this) people who are trying don't tell anyone, and don't tell anyone that they are pregnant for MONTHS and the whole time they know you are trying... they do the fake drinking thing, etc. I completely understand why people do it, but I feel like and idiot when they announce they are pregnant. It has happened to me twice in the last 6 months and I feel like I need to crawl under a rock when I see them.

VT Pooh · Apr 13th, 2008, 12:05 AM

I only tell very few of my friends that we were trying. Maybe only four of them. I didn't even tell my mom.

I learned it from one of my friend. It took her more than a year. She told everyone that they were trying. "why is still no baby?" became a subject at every gathering. Therefore, we didn't tell anyone about TTC. Everyone was shocked a little bit when we told them we were pregnant for 3 months.

duranie70 · May 12th, 2008, 06:24 PM

I've been married 2 1/2 yrs and am 38... it is pretty damn obvious we have been trying and nothing is happening.

Hmm, the best was my best friends jack as_ of a husband saying, "So what's going on? Do you need some help? Maybe I can give you my super sperm and you can have my baby too" I cussed him out. Yeah, he is just so funny, huh?

mssmelanie · May 12th, 2008, 10:03 PM

UGH! What nerve! I'm sure they didn't mean anything but people just don't think..

beejerry · May 13th, 2008, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by duranie70

I've been married 2 1/2 yrs and am 38... it is pretty damn obvious we have been trying and nothing is happening.

Hmm, the best was my best friends jack as_ of a husband saying, "So what's going on? Do you need some help? Maybe I can give you my super sperm and you can have my baby too" I cussed him out. Yeah, he is just so funny, huh?

Oh God, no thanks! I don't want his hurtful humor in my family!

chipmunk-pnw · May 13th, 2008, 03:14 AM

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Originally Posted by duranie70

I've been married 2 1/2 yrs and am 38... it is pretty damn obvious we have been trying and nothing is happening.

Hmm, the best was my best friends jack as_ of a husband saying, "So what's going on? Do you need some help? Maybe I can give you my super sperm and you can have my baby too" I cussed him out. Yeah, he is just so funny, huh?

jenniletv · May 13th, 2008, 08:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by duranie70

I've been married 2 1/2 yrs and am 38... it is pretty damn obvious we have been trying and nothing is happening.

Hmm, the best was my best friends jack as_ of a husband saying, "So what's going on? Do you need some help? Maybe I can give you my super sperm and you can have my baby too" I cussed him out. Yeah, he is just so funny, huh?

OMG. I would have said, "No thanks, I do want a normal child." The nerve of some people.

tabbyco · May 13th, 2008, 10:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by duranie70

Hmm, the best was my best friends jack as_ of a husband saying, "So what's going on? Do you need some help? Maybe I can give you my super sperm and you can have my baby too" I cussed him out. Yeah, he is just so funny, huh?

Whatta douche bag!

Apr 10th, 2008, 04:43 PM	#1
tabbyco Quirrel! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Right Coast Posts: 2,174	Telling people Do you ever get in a conversation and mention that you are trying TTC and then afterwards totally regret it?? I don't know WHAT is my deal, but I feel compelled to tell just about every pregnant women that I am TTC. And after the conversation I am like "Why can't you STOP telling people!!" It is like I have diaharrea of the mouth and just can't restrain myself. Then, when I don't get pregnant I feel SOOOO stupid. And I hate that I have told so many people... oh well... I guess that will just make it that more exciting when it does happen, 'cause I will have ALOT of people to tell. __________________

Apr 10th, 2008, 05:53 PM	#2
pinkdot wat it is yo? Joined: May 2007 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 176	Re: Telling people I also told many people as well and i wish i hadn't. Hubby didnt like it at all. He said it's something personal, and shouldn't have been shared with other. Cuz, of course no one told me that they were TTC..and i felt stupid. Also, everytime i went to NJ, people asked, soo any good news??? that was an annoying question. __________________

Apr 10th, 2008, 06:14 PM	#3
mssmelanie Member Joined: Jul 2006 Location: NJ Posts: 1,891	Re: Telling people I am so the same way! Now I wish that we didn't tell anyone about the treatments because of course everyone wants to know how it's going or how the IVF, IUI's went.. And of course they all didn't go well and I just break down and cry when they ask me! But over time, it's gotten easier.. they pretty much know not to ask anymore...

Apr 10th, 2008, 08:31 PM	#4
Faith He makes me smile! Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Long Island Posts: 1,817	Re: Telling people We haven't really told anyone that we're TTC. Not even my own mom!

Apr 10th, 2008, 09:29 PM	#5
chodessa Hot and Humble Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,471	Re: Telling people I am the opposite. I find myself just telling people that we are "thinking a lot about it"... I am so superstitious ONLY where TTC is concerned. I feel like if I tell people we are trying, then I will jinx it and it won't happen, or I'm going to have problems. That's such an illogical way of thinking, I know, but I guess I am a tad neurotic concerning this topic..

Apr 11th, 2008, 08:54 AM	#6
sarahsar In LVoe Joined: Sep 2007 Location: USA Posts: 1,198	Re: Telling people I find also that people, even just acquaintances, will often ask a lot about TTC, not knowing what kind of can of worms they are opening. "So aren't you all going to start a family?" Or "When are you going to have another one?" Or my grandmother asking my mother, "Does Sarah just not want to have children?" It's such a loaded question. They don't want to hear, "Well, we would just be delighted if the stork would pay us a visit, but that pesky bird has cost us about $40,000 and in 6 years we've been lucky to see him once, so I'm just not sure when we'll see him again." I usually just mumble something about "when the time is right," but it always feels kind of dishonest. __________________

Apr 11th, 2008, 09:32 AM	#7
jenniletv Need bag rehab Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Middle of Hokie Nation! Posts: 2,482	Re: Telling people I do feel the same way. Now each month they always ask "So....how's it going?" Or " have you started yet?" It never ends and I should have kept my mouth shut!! __________________ My Babies: LV Mono Deauville LV Mono Trouville LV Mono Ellipse Backpack LV MC Black Alma LV Black Epi Speedy 30 LV Manhattan PM LV Mono Pochette LV MC Black Porte-Tresor Wallet LV Mono 4 key holder RM Mattinee in Black/Blue flap RM Steady in Hazelnut

Apr 13th, 2008, 12:05 AM	#9
VT Pooh Member Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 445	Re: Telling people I only tell very few of my friends that we were trying. Maybe only four of them. I didn't even tell my mom. I learned it from one of my friend. It took her more than a year. She told everyone that they were trying. "why is still no baby?" became a subject at every gathering. Therefore, we didn't tell anyone about TTC. Everyone was shocked a little bit when we told them we were pregnant for 3 months.

May 12th, 2008, 06:24 PM	#10
duranie70 Handbag Addict Joined: Aug 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 1,704	Re: Telling people I've been married 2 1/2 yrs and am 38... it is pretty damn obvious we have been trying and nothing is happening. Hmm, the best was my best friends jack as_ of a husband saying, "So what's going on? Do you need some help? Maybe I can give you my super sperm and you can have my baby too" I cussed him out. Yeah, he is just so funny, huh? __________________ In debt because of tpf

May 12th, 2008, 10:03 PM	#11
mssmelanie Member Joined: Jul 2006 Location: NJ Posts: 1,891	Re: Telling people UGH! What nerve! I'm sure they didn't mean anything but people just don't think..