Not offically TTC but not really not TTC

[ive_flipped]

Hello Everyone...I just thought I would pop in and say hello and start to get to know everyone in this forum. I usually hang out in LV (my lvoe lol). My husband and I are newly wed (but have been together a little while).

We have been having those talks...and well seem like we are kinda of TTC but not really trying. I am kind of excited but also very nervous for some reason. I want a baby but also like my lifestyle. I want to hear from all of you how you are dealing with those types of feelings. I am also dealing with some family that really thinks one day I am crazy for wanting a baby and other days seem like it would be a great thing. I am also a little bit of a worrier and worry about way way way into the future and having a bad pre-teen/teen in my life lol.

Are you nervous about the changes? Are you concerned about perm. body changes etc?

I look forward to getting to know you all and hopefully welcoming all your new bundles of joy to tpf

[BearyT]

Welcome you on board!

Everyone is so nice in here and it seems everyone has a different story of their own.
Here's my story, I think communication is the key. DH and I have been together for more than 10 years before getting married. We tend to plan everything first before it happens. Like getting a house first then getting married and then a baby. So we come to this stage now that we both think we're ready for a baby. We started TTC in Jan and got a positive in May. However, I had a natural M/C in 6 weeks. We faced it and deal with it. DH and I are not giving hope. We are starting TTC again this month.

I am not worried about the changes in my body. I've gained 15lbs during this whole process, I guess I was just stressed. But I'm trying to stay healthy and do exerise daily to knock off those lbs. Can't wait to see one day my tummy is getting bigger and bigger!

[Virgo]

Welcome. I am a new member as well. DH & I have been together 13 years (6.5 years married) and only recently started TTC seriously. I am 33 now. I am happy that we waited cuz we wanted to establish our careers, be financially stable and have a easy lifestyle as a married couple for a while. Now I want it to happen soon (within 6 mths) and if it doesn't then I will probably question waiting to TTC as long as we did. BUT, as with everything its such a personal decision.

Good luck with your decision.

[wasabipea]

Hello and welcome. Congrats btw, newlywed.

The DH and I have been married for a year, dated for 3. We are both 31. Like everyone else, we planned and waited until we were financially stable. We've been TTC since Feb. of this year and so far we have been unsucessful. We're hoping for the best. It's a bit scary this TTC journey, during the first two months I was terrified of the lifestyle change; when would i get to do ME stuff when the baby is here. However, no baby yet. i guess the biggest hurdle is getting pregnant and the rest will just follow.

good luck to you!

[illinirdhd]

DH and I got married in February, and are planning to start TTC in August/September. I think this will be my last pill cycle, so I guess we won't be preventing it for much longer. I've always assumed I could get pregnant if I missed a single pill, but it's freaking me out now. What if I hate being pregnant? What if I'm not cut out to be a mom? What if DH isn't cut out to be a dad? When are we EVER going to get to Europe for a cruise? What if we start TTC and get all excited, and then find out we can't get pregnant? All these crazy thoughts.

So I'm right there with ya!

(We've been together for 2.5 years, living together for a year, married just over 4 months, I'm 31 and DH is 38, and we'd both really like to have a May/June/July baby!)

[ive_flipped]

Thanks everyone for the welcome. It's so nice to talk to people to understand the feelings lol I am 28 and really what I fear the most is my mom who thinks having kids in nuts because it changes your lifestyle (I have a really great paying job and do what I want when I want) Really though after reading some other posts in this forum it's clear that ya some things change but not everything. You just have to plan for things a little more :)

But like a few of you have said the doubts are still there (can I handle it, will I be good at it and the dreaded what if there are health issues or a really really colicky baby)

[ive_flipped]

I guess the title of this thread is wrong. I am now officially TTC. Wish me luck

[LeMonde]

ive_flipped -> I had exactly the same thoughts and worries when I was thinking about having a baby after I got married... and even more once we actually started ttc... But now, 7 months into ttc, I have NONE of them at all and I have no idea why lol It's really strange... It's like all these thoughts have hidden somewhere so I can concentrate on getting prego first; I guess my brain decided to take it 'one step at the time' - but I have no doubt that once I'm finally pregnant, all of them will come back with double the force LOL

[ive_flipped]

Originally Posted by JackieG

ive_flipped -> I had exactly the same thoughts and worries when I was thinking about having a baby after I got married... and even more once we actually started ttc... But now, 7 months into ttc, I have NONE of them at all and I have no idea why lol It's really strange... It's like all these thoughts have hidden somewhere so I can concentrate on getting prego first; I guess my brain decided to take it 'one step at the time' - but I have no doubt that once I'm finally pregnant, all of them will come back with double the force LOL

LOL yes unfortunately I think for me they will come rushing back as well now that I am ttc. Now I wonder can I or can't I. I know I have an almost exact 28 day cycle and I feel that twinge every month and what is scary is that sometimes I feel it more then once or both sides lol (multiples run on both sides of my family and on his) so scary too. And then I think what if I can't...how far will I go to have a baby. And some days I do not think about it at all. What can ya do right.
So right now it is BD'ing , eating right, starting to work out and hoping for the best.

[alvie223]

I think I'm drifiting along in a similar but slightly more serious boat

[meluv2shop12]

I'm 28 married for 2 years but have been with dh a total of 6 years... before we got married, we tried to get as much debt out of the way.. our first 2 years as a married couple we travelled and pretty much just enjoyed each other.. now we're ready to start a family.

i'm definitely nervous about the whole idea of being completely responsible for another human being! what our kinds are going to be like? will they give us a hard time? will we give them a hard time? thousands of questions!

i thinks it's completely normal to have all these worries. that, IMO, is what is going to help us be even more responsible parents - the fact that we are considering everything that we could think of before taking the plunge..

[ive_flipped]

I guess I should update this thread as I am now pregnant 5w2d so far. I have decided not to tell anyone around me I am pregnant just yet. I will tell my family, his family, work and friends all at 12 weeks. It just makes it easier that way. Some of my co-workers are around where my mom lives and I would hate for her or my grams slip up so I have to wait. That way as well it's past the most risky time.

Now it's the money and time off question I am battling with.

[wasabipea]

I've flipped, I don't know how you can keep a THAT secret for too long. I'd probably place an add out. cuz i'd super excited, but then I do understand keeping it for yourself until the time is right.

Time and $$. Your work should have some sort of family leave plan, right? and as for $$, things have a way of working themselves out.. sounds cliche, but don't they? hugs to you and congrats once more.

[ive_flipped]

Thanks Wasabipea. It tough and will be tough but I think what makes it easier to keep it quiet is that I know my mom has mixed feelings about having babies and I am cautious with work because it's an industry where you have to always be on top. I know once they know your preggers you are the pregnant one. I used to hang with the boys and my friends are the VP and directors so you can see why it's a tough one.

Thanks again

[jenniletv]

I would only wait until you are about 8 weeks to tell family. You can then wait til 12 weeks to let your co-workers know.