My TTC reality

wasabipea · Apr 22nd, 2008, 08:24 PM

My DH and I started our TTC end of Jan.08. And each time when AF would visit, I get discouraged and blame myself.
This thread has helped with my TTC rollercoaster emotions. DH and I were of the mind set that education, career, marriage, and of course babies would naturally follow, right? I thought I could PLAN Fall baby. yeah, silly me, little did I know it would take at least 6 months (from what my MD told me) of trying after getting off the birth control and if old fashion BD doesn't work, my MD will see what's going on. Nice. As such, each month is frustratrating... channeled through purchases. OH and the comments from family and random acquaintances like, "no babies yet?" Doesn't help. punks. I just smile and nod.

Everyone's post have been encouraging. Thank you for sharing. I hope baby dust will fall on me soon.

[standing off my soap box]

hugs to all.

minks · Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:07 PM

I know how you feel. If you had asked me 2 years ago I would have said "Get pregnant? No problem!" But here we are 17 months later....And I love the "So when are you going to have one?" questions!!!!

beejerry · Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:18 PM

I can relate... I feel so lonely since EVERY single one of my girlfriends or women I knew trying has given birth! No one is in the same boat as me... So depressed. I have cried so many times, tears just won't stop streaming down.

chodessa · Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:22 PM

I too feel your pain and pray for some babydust..

brasileira · Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:23 PM

You know, I was very frustrated too. Last one of my friends to have a baby, tried for >1 year, thought, like everything else in life, if I just wanted it/tried for it, it would happen. I was so tired of people asking and saying, just relax, it'll happen when you least expect it! Well, I started yoga....it helped me SO much. Not necessarily the yoga, but try something that calms your mind and when your body is more relaxed it will happen. Good luck! :-)

jenniletv · Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:58 PM

You have come to the right place!! We feel your pain and frustration more than others. We have been there, most of us, for a while and we are here for each other. This time can be very trying and what better place to vent, cry and somtimes be positive. Welcome and let us know if we can help in any way!!

Baby Dust to all!!!!

mssmelanie · Apr 22nd, 2008, 11:19 PM

Strange how things don't go according to "plan".. We're right here with you. Feel free to vent anytime! We're here to listen and we are all at different stages of TTC so we can totally relate. My thing is, if you're sad, let it out..Sometimes its good to just get it off your mind. Then when that sadness is released, just get back out of that slump and try to appreciate the things you have, the things you can do.

It's such an emotional roller coaster and sometimes people don't always say the right things. I mean pre TTC, I would've probably said the same dumb things to other people TTC.. Now I know better...

cascratchfever · Apr 23rd, 2008, 09:53 AM

We're pretty much all in the same boat here. I don't know anyone IRL with the same TTC problems as me. Everyone I know can magically get pregnant whenever they want...or even without trying at all!

I can't believe I wasted all those years with DH tyring to protect ourselves from pregnancy, it makes me wish we would have just slipped up a few times....maybe it would have been easier for me to get pregnant back then. I have so many what if's!

wasabipea · Apr 23rd, 2008, 12:30 PM

This TTC business is not what its cracked up to be. Its not all rainbows and lollipops. At any rate, thank you for your kind words.

tabbyco · Apr 23rd, 2008, 06:16 PM

Welcome wasabipea (best user name EVER!!)

We are here to vent, cry, wait, dream and of course celebrate with you, but be warned we will be the most supportive and annoyingly positive group of great gals you've ever met.

Go TEAM TTC!!

ms piggy · Apr 24th, 2008, 11:50 AM

We are here for you. And I love wasabi pea, yum!

pinkdot · Apr 28th, 2008, 07:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wasabipea

I thought I could PLAN Fall baby. yeah, silly me, little did I know it would take at least 6 months.

I also thought i could plan a "summer" baby, but yea i was so wrong and not knowledgeable at all. Didn't know that it takes up to 6 months to 1 year to plan a baby.

Its very tough, but hang in there. Baby Dust to ALL !

peachbaby · May 7th, 2008, 09:47 PM

I could relate. DH and I went through the education, career, marriage, and babies plan as well. We never imagined that the last part would be so tough. I'm glad that I found this site

IcansPotaFake32 · May 7th, 2008, 09:52 PM

Just curious...when exactly are you ladies trying? What time of the month? Any in particular?

tabbyco · May 8th, 2008, 10:02 AM

^^ Most people time it around their ovulation. Which on average is 14 days after period (if you have a 28 day cycle). Some everyday, some every other day.

Apr 22nd, 2008, 08:24 PM	#1
wasabipea Member Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 344	My TTC reality My DH and I started our TTC end of Jan.08. And each time when AF would visit, I get discouraged and blame myself. This thread has helped with my TTC rollercoaster emotions. DH and I were of the mind set that education, career, marriage, and of course babies would naturally follow, right? I thought I could PLAN Fall baby. yeah, silly me, little did I know it would take at least 6 months (from what my MD told me) of trying after getting off the birth control and if old fashion BD doesn't work, my MD will see what's going on. Nice. As such, each month is frustratrating... channeled through purchases. OH and the comments from family and random acquaintances like, "no babies yet?" Doesn't help. punks. I just smile and nod. Everyone's post have been encouraging. Thank you for sharing. I hope baby dust will fall on me soon. [standing off my soap box] hugs to all.

Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:07 PM	#2
minks Always Shopping Joined: Jul 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 166	Re: My TTC reality I know how you feel. If you had asked me 2 years ago I would have said "Get pregnant? No problem!" But here we are 17 months later....And I love the "So when are you going to have one?" questions!!!!

Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:18 PM	#3
beejerry A Blondie Gal! Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Silicon Valley Posts: 7,317	Re: My TTC reality I can relate... I feel so lonely since EVERY single one of my girlfriends or women I knew trying has given birth! No one is in the same boat as me... So depressed. I have cried so many times, tears just won't stop streaming down. __________________ no expert, just personal opinion. ~ Always have room for a Blondie ~

Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:22 PM	#4
chodessa Hot Smot and Humble Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,788	Re: My TTC reality I too feel your pain and pray for some babydust..

Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:23 PM	#5
brasileira Member Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 28	Re: My TTC reality You know, I was very frustrated too. Last one of my friends to have a baby, tried for >1 year, thought, like everything else in life, if I just wanted it/tried for it, it would happen. I was so tired of people asking and saying, just relax, it'll happen when you least expect it! Well, I started yoga....it helped me SO much. Not necessarily the yoga, but try something that calms your mind and when your body is more relaxed it will happen. Good luck! :-)

Apr 22nd, 2008, 09:58 PM	#6
jenniletv Got Minkie Feevah Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Middle of Hokie Nation! Posts: 2,888	Re: My TTC reality You have come to the right place!! We feel your pain and frustration more than others. We have been there, most of us, for a while and we are here for each other. This time can be very trying and what better place to vent, cry and somtimes be positive. Welcome and let us know if we can help in any way!! Baby Dust to all!!!! __________________ Wanted: RM MAM in color undecided RM Nikki in Wine RM Mattinee in Grey or Wine GO HOKIES!!!!

Apr 22nd, 2008, 11:19 PM	#7
mssmelanie Member Joined: Jul 2006 Location: NJ Posts: 1,897	Re: My TTC reality Strange how things don't go according to "plan".. We're right here with you. Feel free to vent anytime! We're here to listen and we are all at different stages of TTC so we can totally relate. My thing is, if you're sad, let it out..Sometimes its good to just get it off your mind. Then when that sadness is released, just get back out of that slump and try to appreciate the things you have, the things you can do. It's such an emotional roller coaster and sometimes people don't always say the right things. I mean pre TTC, I would've probably said the same dumb things to other people TTC.. Now I know better...

Apr 23rd, 2008, 09:53 AM	#8
cascratchfever Member Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 750	Re: My TTC reality We're pretty much all in the same boat here. I don't know anyone IRL with the same TTC problems as me. Everyone I know can magically get pregnant whenever they want...or even without trying at all! I can't believe I wasted all those years with DH tyring to protect ourselves from pregnancy, it makes me wish we would have just slipped up a few times....maybe it would have been easier for me to get pregnant back then. I have so many what if's!

Apr 23rd, 2008, 12:30 PM	#9
wasabipea Member Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 344	Re: My TTC reality This TTC business is not what its cracked up to be. Its not all rainbows and lollipops. At any rate, thank you for your kind words.

Apr 23rd, 2008, 06:16 PM	#10
tabbyco Quirrel! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Right Coast Posts: 2,200	Re: My TTC reality Welcome wasabipea (best user name EVER!!) We are here to vent, cry, wait, dream and of course celebrate with you, but be warned we will be the most supportive and annoyingly positive group of great gals you've ever met. Go TEAM TTC!! __________________

Apr 24th, 2008, 11:50 AM	#11
ms piggy Member Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 6,779	Re: My TTC reality We are here for you. And I love wasabi pea, yum!

May 7th, 2008, 09:47 PM	#13
peachbaby Member Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 335	Re: My TTC reality I could relate. DH and I went through the education, career, marriage, and babies plan as well. We never imagined that the last part would be so tough. I'm glad that I found this site

May 7th, 2008, 09:52 PM	#14
IcansPotaFake32 Member Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 514	Re: My TTC reality Just curious...when exactly are you ladies trying? What time of the month? Any in particular?

May 8th, 2008, 10:02 AM	#15
tabbyco Quirrel! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Right Coast Posts: 2,200	Re: My TTC reality ^^ Most people time it around their ovulation. Which on average is 14 days after period (if you have a 28 day cycle). Some everyday, some every other day. __________________