[beejerry]

Originally Posted by mssmelanie

So tabbyco - be selective about who you tell.. and remember their might be difficult times during IVF but when you think about you're doing this for your future baby, it will help carry you through.

How about a daily double -- future twins?

Ok, one at a time. Cannot be greedy!

[tabbyco]

Originally Posted by emmalawyer

One piece of advice that I would offer is be very selective about the people you share this with. I wish I had just kept my mouth shut about doing IVF because the whole process is demanding and people asking how it is and when do you find out can become a little much. I told very few people (mainly family members that I am very close to) and even that was too much. Besides, I did not want it known by all of our friends that my husband and I had to jump through so many hoops to get pregnant, nor did I want people to think of my babies as "test tube babies"....

So just be sensible and protect your feelings first!

Great advice. I needed to be told that b/c I am an overly honest (some would say blunt) person. Probably doesn't help that some of my friends are on tPF and know my user name. But how do you navigate the whole 'who to tell what and when' thing? I don't want to hide it from people, but I want to protect our privacy and I want to be able to help people who struggle with infertility in the future, like you are all helping me.

I was just talking w/ DH today and we think some of our friends have gone through IVF and aren't sharing their experience w/people, b/c what are the chances of having 4 sets of twins and 1 set of triples to 5 different parents and only 2 of them had help?? It wasn't until I heard that IVF w/Assisted Hatching increases the changes of identical twins by 30% that I thought it odd that we knew of 3 sets of identical twins.

Originally Posted by beejerry

How about a daily double -- future twins?

Ok, one at a time. Cannot be greedy!

Be careful what you wish for .

[duranie70]

I'm like you tabbyco.. tell the whole damn world so that wehn I am overly sad and emotional, people know exactly why.

My husband is kinda mad that I post this on the purse forum and started yelling at me last night about it. Whatever. Just wish I could change my name.

I just can't believe we are all in the same boat. My Dr. told me today that if the IUI did not work, need a new HSG test next month and to go at this more aggresively w/ injectibiles and IVF. I am so devastated. I never wanted to get pregnant this way and am so scared that I will do it a bunch of times and nothing will happen.

I just don't know what to say at the office as to why I need to take off days or come in late. I certainly do not want my bosses to know I am actively trying to get pregnant.

[tabbyco]

Originally Posted by duranie70

I just don't know what to say at the office as to why I need to take off days or come in late. I certainly do not want my bosses to know I am actively trying to get pregnant.

"Outpatient medical procedure" that is all they need to know...

[duranie70]

Thankyou TabbyCo!

[tabbyco]

Here is a great website for checking out ART Clinics success rates and national rates:

http://www.sart.org/index.html