Ivf

jenniletv · Apr 24th, 2008, 12:56 PM

Good I am glad to hear that!! Keep up that great attitude!!

sarahsar · Apr 24th, 2008, 02:24 PM

Hugs to you, tabbyco!

I know what you are going through! We conceived our daughter through IVF, and this current baby as well. I don't think anyone would start out wanting to conceive this way. It is certainly stressful and expensive (I may have to check out moving to Massachussetts - I didn't know insurance had to pay for it there!), but I am also very thankful that this option exists. If I had been TTC 30 years ago, I really wouldn't have had a shot. At least we live in a time where IVF is a possibility. And I know others have said this also, but it's really true - once you have your child, it doesn't really matter how you got there.

alo6 · Apr 24th, 2008, 03:04 PM

((((((

)))))) I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!

chodessa · Apr 24th, 2008, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by tabbyco

I'm up and I'm dusting!!

Atta girl.

.. now that's the tabby I love

hearing from.. always so positive and energetic.. you are our team leader!! But hopefully not for long..

mangowife · Apr 24th, 2008, 10:36 PM

Tabby - you are in my thoughts and prayers! I love how you are so transparent with us in everything you feel, high and low. You're a shining example to all of us!!!

tabbyco · Apr 25th, 2008, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by chodessa

Atta girl.

.. now that's the tabby I love

hearing from.. always so positive and energetic.. you are our team leader!! But hopefully not for long..

Quote:

Originally Posted by mangowife

Tabby - you are in my thoughts and prayers! I love how you are so transparent with us in everything you feel, high and low. You're a shining example to all of us!!!

Aww, thanks...

emmalawyer · Apr 25th, 2008, 02:29 PM

I haven't read through all the posts, but I wish I could give you a hug & encourage you to just keep on going. Do the next right thing you need to do in order to accomplish your goal. It may sound trite, but really who cares how other people conceive? Who cares if other women (mostly in the movies) jump around their bathrooms looking fabulous while waving a BFP EPT with the soundtrack swelling in the background? I know I didn't give a rat's azz about any of that when I finally decided to go through with my IVF. I focused all my energies on getting pregnant some way some how. Yeah, it wasn't like in the movies. It wasn't easy. It may have been nice to just have it happen spontaneously after a passionate night with my husband. But, really who cares? Look at it this way: the RE will give you pictures of your embryos right before the transfer. That's a cool one for the baby album... cos how many people can say they saw their baby at 5 days after conception? You'll also never have to approximate gestational age because you'll know EXACTLY when the baby(ies) were conceived. And when that EPT turns positive (after so many negs) you'll want to jump for joy and won't because you'll be afraid that might be bad for baby... but you'll hear the music loud and clear in your head and forget about how you conceived. Kind of like the woman who is naturally slender vs. the one who has to struggle to have an amazing body. One is naturally blessed; the other has to achieve this blessing (and this struggle sometimes makes the victory that much sweeter).

Once the baby(ies) is/are here, I promise you that you won't care at all how they happened & what it took to get them here. You'll magically have a very special kind of amnesia regarding the IVF & all that. You'll just know that it was so worth it and you'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. Trust!

And feel free to PM me if you want to talk more about it. Take care and focus on making this miracle happen!

tabbyco · Apr 25th, 2008, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by emmalawyer

Kind of like the woman who is naturally slender vs. the one who has to struggle to have an amazing body. One is naturally blessed; the other has to achieve this blessing (and this struggle sometimes makes the victory that much sweeter).

What a great perspective I hadn't considered. You are SOOO RIGHT!!! I'll be PMing you with questions, I'm sure...

sarahsar · Apr 25th, 2008, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by emmalawyer

I haven't read through all the posts, but I wish I could give you a hug & encourage you to just keep on going. Do the next right thing you need to do in order to accomplish your goal. It may sound trite, but really who cares how other people conceive? Who cares if other women (mostly in the movies) jump around their bathrooms looking fabulous while waving a BFP EPT with the soundtrack swelling in the background? I know I didn't give a rat's azz about any of that when I finally decided to go through with my IVF. I focused all my energies on getting pregnant some way some how. Yeah, it wasn't like in the movies. It wasn't easy. It may have been nice to just have it happen spontaneously after a passionate night with my husband. But, really who cares? Look at it this way: the RE will give you pictures of your embryos right before the transfer. That's a cool one for the baby album... cos how many people can say they saw their baby at 5 days after conception? You'll also never have to approximate gestational age because you'll know EXACTLY when the baby(ies) were conceived. And when that EPT turns positive (after so many negs) you'll want to jump for joy and won't because you'll be afraid that might be bad for baby... but you'll hear the music loud and clear in your head and forget about how you conceived. Kind of like the woman who is naturally slender vs. the one who has to struggle to have an amazing body. One is naturally blessed; the other has to achieve this blessing (and this struggle sometimes makes the victory that much sweeter).

Once the baby(ies) is/are here, I promise you that you won't care at all how they happened & what it took to get them here. You'll magically have a very special kind of amnesia regarding the IVF & all that. You'll just know that it was so worth it and you'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. Trust!

I really like how you've put this, and I totally agree about the amnesia. It's funny, I even look back a little fondly on the shots and everything (I know that's a little sick), but in a way it was a nice thing to be _doing_ something that I knew was bringing me closer to having a baby. There is so much helplessness with infertility that it's nice to feel like there is something concrete that you can do to make it happen.

emmalawyer · Apr 25th, 2008, 04:06 PM

^^^SO totally true!!!! I feel like HELL YEAH I BEAT INFERTILITY! So, it took injections & all that... so what that's MY journey. I wanted what a baby, nature wasn't on my side, technology was and I'm grateful that there was a way and that it worked.

And the final score is:

Emma: 2

Infertility: 0

So there!

emmalawyer · Apr 25th, 2008, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by tabbyco

: I'll be PMing you with questions, I'm sure...

Please do; I'd love to help if I can... One piece of advice that I would offer is be very selective about the people you share this with. I wish I had just kept my mouth shut about doing IVF because the whole process is demanding and people asking how it is and when do you find out can become a little much. I told very few people (mainly family members that I am very close to) and even that was too much. Besides, I did not want it known by all of our friends that my husband and I had to jump through so many hoops to get pregnant, nor did I want people to think of my babies as "test tube babies"....

So just be sensible and protect your feelings first!

VT Pooh · Apr 25th, 2008, 04:56 PM

emmalawyer,

Good Job!!!! Thanks for sharing your experience.

VT Pooh

jenniletv · Apr 25th, 2008, 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by emmalawyer

I haven't read through all the posts, but I wish I could give you a hug & encourage you to just keep on going. Do the next right thing you need to do in order to accomplish your goal. It may sound trite, but really who cares how other people conceive? Who cares if other women (mostly in the movies) jump around their bathrooms looking fabulous while waving a BFP EPT with the soundtrack swelling in the background? I know I didn't give a rat's azz about any of that when I finally decided to go through with my IVF. I focused all my energies on getting pregnant some way some how. Yeah, it wasn't like in the movies. It wasn't easy. It may have been nice to just have it happen spontaneously after a passionate night with my husband. But, really who cares? Look at it this way: the RE will give you pictures of your embryos right before the transfer. That's a cool one for the baby album... cos how many people can say they saw their baby at 5 days after conception? You'll also never have to approximate gestational age because you'll know EXACTLY when the baby(ies) were conceived. And when that EPT turns positive (after so many negs) you'll want to jump for joy and won't because you'll be afraid that might be bad for baby... but you'll hear the music loud and clear in your head and forget about how you conceived. Kind of like the woman who is naturally slender vs. the one who has to struggle to have an amazing body. One is naturally blessed; the other has to achieve this blessing (and this struggle sometimes makes the victory that much sweeter).

Once the baby(ies) is/are here, I promise you that you won't care at all how they happened & what it took to get them here. You'll magically have a very special kind of amnesia regarding the IVF & all that. You'll just know that it was so worth it and you'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. Trust!

And feel free to PM me if you want to talk more about it. Take care and focus on making this miracle happen!

chodessa · Apr 25th, 2008, 09:21 PM

Emma - your post is so inspiring.
Thank you for sharing....(chodessa wipes tears away...)

mssmelanie · Apr 25th, 2008, 11:01 PM

Emma~ you are so right about being selective who you tell about your IVF.. We told almost everyone..And everyone knew when it was happening. We were CRUSHED when we found it was negative and then to relive it every time someone asked how it went! That was pure torture...

emma / sarah - my friend who went through IVF said the same thing about doing all the shots... Whens she had her son she "magically" forgot all about the IVF process and procedures. She positively glows when talking about her son. When I was going through IVF, she was very positive when I was discouraged and it really helped me get through. I remember feeling like, yeah, it hurts but I can do this for my baby :)

So tabbyco - be selective about who you tell.. and remember their might be difficult times during IVF but when you think about you're doing this for your future baby, it will help carry you through.

Apr 24th, 2008, 12:56 PM	#16
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Apr 24th, 2008, 02:24 PM	#17
sarahsar In LVoe Location: USA	Re: Ivf Hugs to you, tabbyco! I know what you are going through! We conceived our daughter through IVF, and this current baby as well. I don't think anyone would start out wanting to conceive this way. It is certainly stressful and expensive (I may have to check out moving to Massachussetts - I didn't know insurance had to pay for it there!), but I am also very thankful that this option exists. If I had been TTC 30 years ago, I really wouldn't have had a shot. At least we live in a time where IVF is a possibility. And I know others have said this also, but it's really true - once you have your child, it doesn't really matter how you got there. __________________

Apr 24th, 2008, 03:04 PM	#18
alo6 Member Location: London	Re: Ivf (((((()))))) I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! __________________ GOING THROUGH SHOPPING WITHDRAWAL

Apr 24th, 2008, 10:36 PM	#20
mangowife Seriously tempted... Location: Too far from the beach!	Re: Ivf Tabby - you are in my thoughts and prayers! I love how you are so transparent with us in everything you feel, high and low. You're a shining example to all of us!!! __________________

Apr 25th, 2008, 02:29 PM	#22
emmalawyer BLITHERING FOOL Location: with the teething twins!	Re: Ivf I haven't read through all the posts, but I wish I could give you a hug & encourage you to just keep on going. Do the next right thing you need to do in order to accomplish your goal. It may sound trite, but really who cares how other people conceive? Who cares if other women (mostly in the movies) jump around their bathrooms looking fabulous while waving a BFP EPT with the soundtrack swelling in the background? I know I didn't give a rat's azz about any of that when I finally decided to go through with my IVF. I focused all my energies on getting pregnant some way some how. Yeah, it wasn't like in the movies. It wasn't easy. It may have been nice to just have it happen spontaneously after a passionate night with my husband. But, really who cares? Look at it this way: the RE will give you pictures of your embryos right before the transfer. That's a cool one for the baby album... cos how many people can say they saw their baby at 5 days after conception? You'll also never have to approximate gestational age because you'll know EXACTLY when the baby(ies) were conceived. And when that EPT turns positive (after so many negs) you'll want to jump for joy and won't because you'll be afraid that might be bad for baby... but you'll hear the music loud and clear in your head and forget about how you conceived. Kind of like the woman who is naturally slender vs. the one who has to struggle to have an amazing body. One is naturally blessed; the other has to achieve this blessing (and this struggle sometimes makes the victory that much sweeter). Once the baby(ies) is/are here, I promise you that you won't care at all how they happened & what it took to get them here. You'll magically have a very special kind of amnesia regarding the IVF & all that. You'll just know that it was so worth it and you'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. Trust! And feel free to PM me if you want to talk more about it. Take care and focus on making this miracle happen! __________________ signature too large “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” --Dr. Seuss ( lil Bitsy's favorite bedtime reading)

Apr 25th, 2008, 04:06 PM	#25
emmalawyer BLITHERING FOOL Location: with the teething twins!	Re: Ivf ^^^SO totally true!!!! I feel like HELL YEAH I BEAT INFERTILITY! So, it took injections & all that... so what that's MY journey. I wanted what a baby, nature wasn't on my side, technology was and I'm grateful that there was a way and that it worked. And the final score is: Emma: 2 Infertility: 0 So there! __________________ signature too large “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” --Dr. Seuss ( lil Bitsy's favorite bedtime reading)

Apr 25th, 2008, 04:56 PM	#27
VT Pooh Member	Re: Ivf emmalawyer, Good Job!!!! Thanks for sharing your experience. VT Pooh

Apr 25th, 2008, 09:21 PM	#29
chodessa Hot Smot and Humble	Re: Ivf Emma - your post is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing....(chodessa wipes tears away...) __________________ SHE'S A COCO-NUT NOW!! CLICK MY AVATAR FOR THE CUTEST DOG PICS EVER!!

Apr 25th, 2008, 11:01 PM	#30
mssmelanie Member Location: NJ	Re: Ivf Emma~ you are so right about being selective who you tell about your IVF.. We told almost everyone..And everyone knew when it was happening. We were CRUSHED when we found it was negative and then to relive it every time someone asked how it went! That was pure torture... emma / sarah - my friend who went through IVF said the same thing about doing all the shots... Whens she had her son she "magically" forgot all about the IVF process and procedures. She positively glows when talking about her son. When I was going through IVF, she was very positive when I was discouraged and it really helped me get through. I remember feeling like, yeah, it hurts but I can do this for my baby :) So tabbyco - be selective about who you tell.. and remember their might be difficult times during IVF but when you think about you're doing this for your future baby, it will help carry you through.