[chodessa]

DH gave me a really hard time this month when it was time to BD..
He has convinced himself that I am only looking to BD when I am in my ovulating week. He may be right. But in no way is he sex starved during the rest of the month.. I think the pressure of me suddenly telling him when exactly is what may be turning him off, or making him rebel against me.
Communication has started to break down and time is a-wasting...
AF arrived today...
I am so frustrated and confused...
I cannot seduce him, because he thinks I am doing it selfishly... ( he may be right about that too!) But what does he expect? I told him, that's how it is when you're trying to conceive...because you only have a few days to do so...
Somehow he doesn't get it!! I wish I could get him to read TCOYF!!
Thanks, I'm done venting...maybe AF has made me this upset today..

[jenniletv]

I completely understand and am there with you. I am ovulating this week. Actually I think I did either yesterday or today. And we have only BD twice, Sunday and yesterday morning. We really need to tonight but he has not felt like it yet and is outside right now mowing the yard. I know once he gets done and we eat dinner he will not feel like it either and he was mad at me for suggesting we go to the bedroom as soon we got home tonight. He does not understand the "schedule" and he thinks one time should be enough during "o" days. And feels pressure when i bring it up. I put up a fight like you are now a lot more than we used to and I am just as frustrated as you right now too. Maybe I can get in the mood tonight or in the morning, but I feel like it maybe too late. I use those ovulation strips and today I had two lines but the one that says you are ovulating or getting ready to was faint whereas yesterday it was really dark like the control line. So I feel like today could be my peak day. I am venting here too and taking your thread hostage, sorry, but I know what you are feeling and going through with DH.

[beejerry]

Tell him to take it or leave it!!!!

DH told me the same thing too. Then I stopped telling him when I "O", now he starts asking me when. Men, you cannot live with or without them!

[VT Pooh]

I was exactly the same way. I didn't want to BD before/after the ovulation. I put up many fights with DH in the process.

I believe when I found out I am finally pregnant, it was a release for him too.

I really have no suggestions. Our men just need to do it. I know they feel a lot of pressure. But I think we have more pressure to get preg as women, they better understand it.

Baby Dust to everyone!!!!

[VT Pooh]

Oh you can tell them, "Once I get preg, you will miss all the BDing."

[chodessa]

Originally Posted by VT Pooh

Oh you can tell them, "Once I get preg, you will miss all the BDing."

OMG...then he'll never want to BD again...he'll be too scared of not getting any when I get preggers!!
It's baffling to me sometimes how differently men and women think..