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canada's · Jul 8th, 2009, 04:28 PM

surely the wife knew. can someone post articles as they read them? i know very little of this case, but it is interesting.

couture diva · Jul 8th, 2009, 05:09 PM

They just confirmed it as a murder-suicide

http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/07/08/...ing/index.html

canada's · Jul 8th, 2009, 06:48 PM

via AP -

NASHVILLE, Tenn. – Former NFL star Steve McNair was shot dead in his sleep last week by a 20-year-old girlfriend distraught about mounting financial problems and her belief that he was seeing someone else, police said Wednesday.

Sahel Kazemi "was spinning out of control" when she shot McNair four times as he dozed on a sofa early Saturday, then turned the gun on herself, Police Chief Ronal Serpas said.

Interviews with friends revealed that she was making payments on two cars, her rent was doubling and she suspected the married McNair was having a second affair with another young woman.

She told a friend on Friday that "My life is a ball of s--- and I should end it," Serpas said.

Police earlier had labeled McNair's death a homicide, but waited for further tests and the revelations about Kazemi's personal problems before concluding that she pulled the trigger of a 9 mm semiautomatic pistol in a condominium McNair rented with a friend.

McNair, 36, a quarterback for the Tennessee Titans most of his career, met Kazemi six months ago at a sports cafe where she was a waitress and his family often ate. She seemed happy and eager to build a life with him, but something went wrong.

"We do know that she was clearly sending a message during the last five to seven days of her life that things were going bad quickly," Serpas said, though there was no indication she told anyone she planned to harm McNair.

Serpas said detectives learned that Kazemi recently found out about another young woman she thought McNair was romantically involved with and had even followed that woman home, though she did not confront her.

Serpas said police believe McNair was asleep when he was killed because there were no defensive wounds. After shooting McNair in the head, Kazemi apparently shot him twice in the chest before shooting him again in the head.

Before shooting herself, she sat next to his body and "tried to stage it so she would fall in his lap," Serpas said. She did, but her body slid to the floor and ended up at McNair's feet. The gun was found underneath her.

Kazemi's family told reporters that the woman was so confident McNair was divorcing his wife of 12 years that she was preparing to sell her furniture and move in with him.

But associate Mike Mu, who has worked with McNair's charitable association for years, said earlier Wednesday that McNair's wife, Mechelle McNair, "didn't know who this girl is." No records of divorce proceedings have surfaced. The McNairs have four children.

Two days before the shooting, police stopped Kazemi driving a Cadillac Escalade sport utility vehicle that McNair had given her for her birthday in May.

According to an arrest affidavit, Kazemi had bloodshot eyes and alcohol on her breath. She refused a breath test and told an officer "she was not drunk, she was high." She was charged with DUI. McNair was with her but not charged. He later made her bail.

Police are awaiting toxicology reports on both bodies.

Serpas said that even though both her name and McNair's were on the Cadillac's title, she was apparently responsible for making payments. She was also making payments on another car after she couldn't sell it.

Kazemi had no history of violence, but "on the last several days of her life it's obvious that she made some very poor decisions," Serpas said.

Mechelle McNair has not spoken publicly since the shooting. Bishop Joseph W. Walker III of Mount Zion Baptist Church, which the McNairs have attended since moving to Nashville in 1997, said Wednesday that she is doing as well as can be expected.

"Her faith is what's sustaining her now," he said. "We haven't talked about the circumstances of his death. She is processing it in a private way. It's obviously devastating on so many levels."

A memorial service is set for Thursday night in Nashville, with the funeral Saturday in his native Mississippi.

The four-time Pro Bowl quarterback was being remembered Wednesday at the stadium where he played much of his career. The Tennessee Titans opened LP Field for fans to watch video highlights of McNair's 13-year NFL career and look at photos of the quarterback. There was also a book for them to write messages that will be given to the family.

McNair was known as "Air McNair" for his passing prowess at Alcorn State in Mississippi. In 2000, he helped lead the Titans to the Super Bowl, where they ended up a yard short of a touchdown on the last play of the game when they trailed by seven points.

He spent the last two seasons with the Baltimore Ravens before retiring from the NFL last year.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090708/..._mcnair_killed

HauteMama · Jul 8th, 2009, 08:44 PM

This is all based on greed and wanting what you maybe shouldn't have. McNair wanted any young woman who caught his eye, so he pursued them - possibly multiple women at a time. McNair's wife wanted the money and the lifestyle, so she turned a blind eye. McNair's girlfriend wanted the man who likely told her he loved her and was leaving his wife for her, so she took it out on everyone when that didn't happen. Sad all around.

twin53 · Jul 8th, 2009, 08:50 PM

an age old scenario - no one ever learns except the hard way. simply tragic.

Jahpson · Jul 8th, 2009, 09:03 PM

Originally Posted by Roo

Some wives look the other way at cheating. How could the wife NOT know? He took vacations with the g/f and he was with her overnight at that condo? If that were my husband he sure as hell would not be taking vaykays with young girls right under my nose. Maybe she knew and turned a blind eye? Hard to know? Either way though, none of them deserved this, including the mistress. What would make someone think this was the only way out?

Im going with crazy, Roo.

I have a feeling that he tried to end it and she wasn't having it.

There are sooo many similar cases like this on Snapped and the First 48

meela188 · Jul 8th, 2009, 09:44 PM

Originally Posted by Jahpson

Im going with crazy, Roo.

I have a feeling that he tried to end it and she wasn't having it.

There are sooo many similar cases like this on Snapped and the First 48

This man was selling this girl dreams and fairy tales, he told her he was going through a divorce, the fact that he was spending nights with her probably helped her hold on to that fantasy. when will men learn that you can't play with people's emotions like that, some are not strong enough to handle it.

Jahpson · Jul 8th, 2009, 09:47 PM

^ yup.

he brought her a truck, and went on vacations with her. Its easy to see why she thought they were going to go all the way.

you certainly can't play with people's emotions. I think this tragedy is proof of that. If your going to be involved with someone, let them know your intentions!!

my friend joked that alot of athletes mistresses probably got dumped this week. not funny i know, but i couldnt help buy chuckle

meela188 · Jul 8th, 2009, 10:28 PM

Originally Posted by Jahpson

my friend joked that alot of athletes mistresses probably got dumped this week. not funny i know, but i couldnt help buy chuckle

LOL, at least some good can come of this tragedy.

michie · Jul 8th, 2009, 10:59 PM

Her age and state of mind shows if she was listening to this man blow a bunch of hot air about leaving his wife. WTH did she think would happen to her? His wife, IMHO, is definitely turning a blind eye to this. Word on the street is this man had numerous women and even more kids. Obviously dude was extracurricular as hell on her, but he and the wife found time to make some kids. I hope they're multiples because if she saw this happening to her marriage and continued to bring kids into it, she needs her behind kicked. Her pain can be buried, but those boys have been slighted and will forever have to deal with this fiasco. I hope they have a strong extended family around them. Nothing like hearing about an exceptional athlete who drops the ball in real life.

Glamfoxx · Jul 8th, 2009, 11:16 PM

This story is sad for everyone involved. I can't help but feel sorry for the 20 year old girl, that is so young. At 20 years old many people do not have the life experience or emotional stability to draw upon in times of crisis.

meela188 · Jul 9th, 2009, 10:11 AM

^^very true and then she lost both her parents at a youg age.

Jahpson · Jul 9th, 2009, 10:27 AM

I don't feel sorry for Mr. McNair. Horrible that he passed, but this could have been avoided had he stayed faithful to his wife.

He had the nerve to date the same woman who served him and his family at Dave and Buster's!! what a cad.

meela188 · Jul 9th, 2009, 10:37 AM

Originally Posted by Jahpson

I don't feel sorry for Mr. McNair. Horrible that he passed, but this could have been avoided had he stayed faithful to his wife.

He had the nerve to date the same woman who served him and his family at Dave and Buster's!! what a cad.

Yeah i see him preying on that child. Even if he had intentions to cheat, the second he heard this girls story about losing both her parents he should have thought twice before selling her all those lies. But he didn't because he was only thinking about scoring some hot young thing.

Jahpson · Jul 9th, 2009, 10:39 AM

I had no idea that she lost both her parents.

Jul 8th, 2009, 04:28 PM	#46
canada's Member Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,794	surely the wife knew. can someone post articles as they read them? i know very little of this case, but it is interesting.
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Jul 8th, 2009, 06:48 PM	#48
canada's Member Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,794	via AP - NASHVILLE, Tenn. – Former NFL star Steve McNair was shot dead in his sleep last week by a 20-year-old girlfriend distraught about mounting financial problems and her belief that he was seeing someone else, police said Wednesday. Sahel Kazemi "was spinning out of control" when she shot McNair four times as he dozed on a sofa early Saturday, then turned the gun on herself, Police Chief Ronal Serpas said. Interviews with friends revealed that she was making payments on two cars, her rent was doubling and she suspected the married McNair was having a second affair with another young woman. She told a friend on Friday that "My life is a ball of s--- and I should end it," Serpas said. Police earlier had labeled McNair's death a homicide, but waited for further tests and the revelations about Kazemi's personal problems before concluding that she pulled the trigger of a 9 mm semiautomatic pistol in a condominium McNair rented with a friend. McNair, 36, a quarterback for the Tennessee Titans most of his career, met Kazemi six months ago at a sports cafe where she was a waitress and his family often ate. She seemed happy and eager to build a life with him, but something went wrong. "We do know that she was clearly sending a message during the last five to seven days of her life that things were going bad quickly," Serpas said, though there was no indication she told anyone she planned to harm McNair. Serpas said detectives learned that Kazemi recently found out about another young woman she thought McNair was romantically involved with and had even followed that woman home, though she did not confront her. Serpas said police believe McNair was asleep when he was killed because there were no defensive wounds. After shooting McNair in the head, Kazemi apparently shot him twice in the chest before shooting him again in the head. Before shooting herself, she sat next to his body and "tried to stage it so she would fall in his lap," Serpas said. She did, but her body slid to the floor and ended up at McNair's feet. The gun was found underneath her. Kazemi's family told reporters that the woman was so confident McNair was divorcing his wife of 12 years that she was preparing to sell her furniture and move in with him. But associate Mike Mu, who has worked with McNair's charitable association for years, said earlier Wednesday that McNair's wife, Mechelle McNair, "didn't know who this girl is." No records of divorce proceedings have surfaced. The McNairs have four children. Two days before the shooting, police stopped Kazemi driving a Cadillac Escalade sport utility vehicle that McNair had given her for her birthday in May. According to an arrest affidavit, Kazemi had bloodshot eyes and alcohol on her breath. She refused a breath test and told an officer "she was not drunk, she was high." She was charged with DUI. McNair was with her but not charged. He later made her bail. Police are awaiting toxicology reports on both bodies. Serpas said that even though both her name and McNair's were on the Cadillac's title, she was apparently responsible for making payments. She was also making payments on another car after she couldn't sell it. Kazemi had no history of violence, but "on the last several days of her life it's obvious that she made some very poor decisions," Serpas said. Mechelle McNair has not spoken publicly since the shooting. Bishop Joseph W. Walker III of Mount Zion Baptist Church, which the McNairs have attended since moving to Nashville in 1997, said Wednesday that she is doing as well as can be expected. "Her faith is what's sustaining her now," he said. "We haven't talked about the circumstances of his death. She is processing it in a private way. It's obviously devastating on so many levels." A memorial service is set for Thursday night in Nashville, with the funeral Saturday in his native Mississippi. The four-time Pro Bowl quarterback was being remembered Wednesday at the stadium where he played much of his career. The Tennessee Titans opened LP Field for fans to watch video highlights of McNair's 13-year NFL career and look at photos of the quarterback. There was also a book for them to write messages that will be given to the family. McNair was known as "Air McNair" for his passing prowess at Alcorn State in Mississippi. In 2000, he helped lead the Titans to the Super Bowl, where they ended up a yard short of a touchdown on the last play of the game when they trailed by seven points. He spent the last two seasons with the Baltimore Ravens before retiring from the NFL last year. http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090708/..._mcnair_killed
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Jul 8th, 2009, 08:44 PM	#49
HauteMama Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,831	This is all based on greed and wanting what you maybe shouldn't have. McNair wanted any young woman who caught his eye, so he pursued them - possibly multiple women at a time. McNair's wife wanted the money and the lifestyle, so she turned a blind eye. McNair's girlfriend wanted the man who likely told her he loved her and was leaving his wife for her, so she took it out on everyone when that didn't happen. Sad all around.
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Jul 8th, 2009, 08:50 PM	#50
twin53 Member Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,177	an age old scenario - no one ever learns except the hard way. simply tragic.
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Jul 8th, 2009, 09:47 PM	#53
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,325	^ yup. he brought her a truck, and went on vacations with her. Its easy to see why she thought they were going to go all the way. you certainly can't play with people's emotions. I think this tragedy is proof of that. If your going to be involved with someone, let them know your intentions!! my friend joked that alot of athletes mistresses probably got dumped this week. not funny i know, but i couldnt help buy chuckle
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Jul 8th, 2009, 05:09 PM	#47
couture diva Member Joined: Dec 2007 Location: South Florida Posts: 86	They just confirmed it as a murder-suicide http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/07/08/...ing/index.html

Jul 8th, 2009, 10:59 PM	#55
michie We Taught It! Joined: Jul 2006 Location: Online Posts: 3,386	Her age and state of mind shows if she was listening to this man blow a bunch of hot air about leaving his wife. WTH did she think would happen to her? His wife, IMHO, is definitely turning a blind eye to this. Word on the street is this man had numerous women and even more kids. Obviously dude was extracurricular as hell on her, but he and the wife found time to make some kids. I hope they're multiples because if she saw this happening to her marriage and continued to bring kids into it, she needs her behind kicked. Her pain can be buried, but those boys have been slighted and will forever have to deal with this fiasco. I hope they have a strong extended family around them. Nothing like hearing about an exceptional athlete who drops the ball in real life.
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Jul 8th, 2009, 11:16 PM	#56
Glamfoxx Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 1,391	This story is sad for everyone involved. I can't help but feel sorry for the 20 year old girl, that is so young. At 20 years old many people do not have the life experience or emotional stability to draw upon in times of crisis.
Glamfoxx Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 1,391

Jul 9th, 2009, 10:11 AM	#57
meela188 Member Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 1,707	^^very true and then she lost both her parents at a youg age.
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Jul 9th, 2009, 10:27 AM	#58
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,325	I don't feel sorry for Mr. McNair. Horrible that he passed, but this could have been avoided had he stayed faithful to his wife. He had the nerve to date the same woman who served him and his family at Dave and Buster's!! what a cad.
	__________________ Michael Joseph Jackson 1958-2009

Jul 9th, 2009, 10:39 AM	#60
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,325	I had no idea that she lost both her parents.
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