(sorry a bit long) Any advice on how to interact with difficult in-laws? We are traveling to see my BF's parents in Europe this Wed. and, to put it lightly, they are not the most welcoming or easy to get along with. I am surprised at how nervous I feel as the date approaches. I always thought it would get easier with each visit we made (and there have been several over the years we have been together), but it seems to be getting more difficult and more awkward with each visit instead. He spoke with them today on the phone and I could hear it was an argument. Their favorite topics are (i) when are we getting married (ii) when are we having children (iii) when are we moving back to Europe, (iv) his career choices. The other favorite subject of late is also the winter holidays. I have never been allowed at Christmas, and for this year he stood up to them and it hasn't gone well from what I can gather (this, of course makes me feel so incredibly uncomfortable and insecure Im not invited to Christmas???). My BF and I have already spoken a lot about this and he is greatly supportive, but I could still use advise on how to stay calm and make conversation when in the back of my mind I feel completely insecure and shy. It is the strangest thing, but these people can make me feel 10 years old again and like I'm being whispered about behind my back (or in this case a foreign language that Im not proficient in) and I am a grown woman!!! Sorry for the long post, and thanks in advance for any advise.