I don't have a Chanel, LV or Hermes bag.
For me, handbags, in addition to being functional can also be used as a signal, or camouflage. My mom loved purses and always told me to get leather, but she hates brands. As a kid I thought Kelly bags were amazing, and that was my dream bag.
I remember as I was entering the workplace, hearing all of those tips on how to look professional. And of course one of those was getting a nice leather bag. So since I had been coveting a Kelly bag since I was 9 or so, I thought I'd see if I could get one. That ended fast when I saw a used one cost more than a car.
I remember getting all sorts of bags in my early 20s. Leather bags of various quality - that gave me the look I wanted. I had a favorite leather tote. The strap died after a year. Then I thought I should get a nicer bag. I got a via Spiga hobo. Still have it, awesome leather, but it doesn't fit my style anymore. I keep pondering selling it.
Eventually, after a promotion, I wanted to get a nice purse. My aunt had an old
Coach purse that held up well. I ended up splurging on Coach bag. And it was quite interesting how one of my senior coworkers treated me so different after she saw my bag. She became a lot nicer. And I also started noticing people would treat me differently when I was shopping and the like. And that was when I learned that your purse acts as a signal to other people and choose wisely. That was also one of the last purse I used as my primary purse - 5 days a week.
After that one died (another story), I started feeling like Coach wasn't always sending the message I wanted to send. It felt a little over exposed. Don't get me wrong, I still have plenty of Coach bags. I find them quite durable, and there are lots of great styles. But it was no longer my holy grail. I ended up getting some great Michael Kors bags, and then they felt over exposed to me as well. And I began a really epic hunt for a forever bag. Something that felt luxurious, understated and premium.
I started to realize that I used my purses to not only coordinate with my outfit, and serve the practical purpose I needed, but to also help be a symbol of my own perceived level of status. And being black in America - you definitely can use some help in certain situations. This is not the objective all the time. I also want my bag to whisper - she looks put together. But it shouldn't overshadow my outfit. For me the handbag is never the exclamation point. I tend to wear brights and patterns, so I don't want my bag to clash. And I rarely get colorful bags. The ones I have get little use. And I struggle to use a non-black bag. I always return to a classic black, bag, generally structured.
And I began a really epic hunt for a forever bag. Something that felt luxurious, understated and premium. And for me, that premium feeling means lined in leather or suede.
About 2 years ago I ended up getting a Ferragamo Sofia! Love this bag. It is under the radar and adds the appropriate amount of polish but still goes with a lot. Those in the know will recognize it as Ferragamo. Everyone else just thinks - nice bag. Now it is in a mini retirement - I switched jobs and need to bring my computer home most days. I ended up getting a backpack to save my shoulders.
Now I am on the hunt again for a new daily bag. While I have tons of candidates in my wardrobe, I realized I missed the feeling of carrying a "designer" bag daily. So none of my current bags will do. I also will swap to a Coach or Fossil or other cheaper brand bag depending on the company.
I want something that can work day to evening but not be too big to pair with a backpack. This has been hard. I still want something understated, but also "hip" and luxurious feeling. And of course the leather or suede lining. But not too dressy. Ideally something that is super under the radar so I don't feel weird carrying it with some people. I am at a weird life stage now where there are large income gaps in my circle of friends - so having something showy would feel excessive and highlight the gaps. My sister gets a little irritated when I have something "premium" that highlights the gaps between us in terms of income.
I can't afford Chanel and Hermes. Chanel is off my list now, but if I was gifted one of those reissues or classic flap bags I wouldn't turn it down. It just feels way to fancy for my life. Same with Hermes - though if a Kelly showed up in my closet. I'd sell a Birkin for a Kelly.. LV and
Gucci are a bit too flashy for me. I am gradually narrowing down the brands that would send the right message and represent me. The list is short.
I have some contenders, and hopefully this pans out soon as a late birthday gift to myself.