Just before I went to college, I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. I have always known that while I can carry a child, I would have to use a donor egg. I don't like that idea. I'd be carrying and giving birth to a child that's not 'mine' and it would never be 'mine.' (And honestly, the idea of giving birth just freaks me out!) Ever since then, I decided that when I am ready for children, I'd really like to adopt. Maybe I wasn't meant to give birth to children. But that doesn't mean I can't be a loving parent to a child who doesn't have parents. I'm single and never been married, but when I talk with my friends about 'planning ahead things,' I always start my sentences with, "When I adopt children . . . " Usually, they'll ask why I want to adopt, and I'll tell them honestly. One friend actually said, "You don't want to experience childbirth?" NO, I don't. Whenever I talk with my parents and the subject of children comes up, I'll mention adoption because that's what I've been planning all along. My dad is fine with it (although once he brought up the topic of having a surrogate parent, which appeals to me.) My mother, though, sometimes has the same response as other people. This is the same person that went out of her way to show me tv specials and articles about celebrities who have adopted children. It just bothers me, because it took me this long to know that I can't ever have my own children. I made peace with the idea of adopting children when I'm ready and I'm looking forward to it. But sometimes people's comments really bother me. It's almost like they're saying it doesn't 'count' unless you carry and give birth to a child. You'd think people would have different attitudes about it these days.