After hiding some of my expensive handbag purchases from DH I got busted. I had already bought my Bolide and planned to add a Birkin or Kelly some day after saving up for them. They were my true love and the Bolide that I got from Susi Norman was just to get me through the wait interim. Then I watched a show on "financial infidelity" or secret spending in a marriage and how it can hurt the relationship so I decided to clearly communicate with DH what I wanted and how I planned to save for it etc. It is my money that I've earned but I felt as though our goals for saving were different and I wanted his blessing if I could get it. I felt like I couldn't really enjoy the purse while I was feeling guilty about it. Well I wouldn't call what I got as a blessing but more of a compromise. He already knew that I owned one "expensive" bag but I told him I didn't want to say more than that it was into four figures. I told him I wanted to save for another one that was even better and I wanted it even more passionately than the Bolide. He rightly intrepreted that to mean more expensive (did I say we communicate clearly?) Anyway the end note of the two hour conversation is that I should have one mega purse at a time and I had better choose the one that I can happily end the rest of my life with.(This because I convinced him how classic the Hermes handbag was and that you could wear it forever). I have to pay off my share of the bills and then set aside money after that. So..I have put my Bolide back on eBay- makes me sad because I love her but if I can get a Birkin somewhere and someday and still have my great friendship with DH it will be worth it. Hope my little story helps any of you that struggle with the DH like I do.