Is there ever a good way to talk to an SO about their health/weight? I'm really curious about this. I've had SOs approach me about this issue several different times, sometimes callously ("maybe you should take the stairs while we take the elevator, you're trying to lose weight, remember?" in front of a group of my friends) and sometimes in a nice way, simply suggesting we go to the gym together to help get us both started on an exercise plan again. So at some moments I've resented the intervention, and sometimes I appreciate it. But it's so hard not to be hurtful! I'm struggling with the same issue right now with my SO for the first time. I'm staying active and eating well and he's not active at all, eating junk food all the time, and has put on a considerable amount of weight in the last 5 months. The last few months have been stressful for him (he's still looking for a job, that's tough), and I don't want to discount that, but I want to encourage him to start taking care of himself again and bring his weight back down to a healthy level. I really am worried that if he doesn't try to stay in shape now that it will become a health concern for him in 10 years (he comes from a family of very overweight people, and his parents are already having health problems due to weight like diabedes). But I don't know how to do that...I've been encouraging him to go exercise like I do, but that doesn't work at all, he says he will and never does. Do you think I should just accept him unconditionally and hope he builds up the confidence to take care of himself at some point in the future? Do I say something to try to bring the problem to light? I'm not looking for him to become a gym rat, I would just like him to take care of himself while he's young and able. When I met him he was in shape and taking care of himself, very motivated, but there's been a dramatic change since then, and it does make me sad. Any suggestions?