to marry or to not marry? for those that don't want to get married, i can understand this viewpoint. imo, simply because two people chose not to get married does not make their love for one another any less than the love shared by a married couple. and i think you'll find that at last count, an estimated 44% of married couples have confessed to having had an affair while being married, and an estimated 50% of marriages end in divorce. those figures hardly make marriage seem like the best option for a "life commitment". you can cheat on one another without the messy cost of divorce. at the same time, im not saying these numbers should discourage anyone from marrying. for the sharing/splitting of property etc.: your will (the last right and testament kind), not your marriage certificate, is what will guarantee how your assets are distributed. if you dont have a will, the state will take care of splitting up assets, just as they would if you were married with no will. not only that, OTHER legal documents can be drawn up that cover ownership of property, so as to make sure that an unmarried couple share ownership of that property (and/or other assets), should they to spilt up in the future. you can also have legal documents -- power of attorney -- drawn up in case you become incapacitated and cannot speak for yourself and need decisions made on your behalf. imo, for those that say that the biggest (non religious) reason for marriage, is simply for legal reasons, argue with an incredibly shortsighted viewpoint. let's not beat about the bush here. marriage is simply a tradition and we get married because it is a socially acceptable form of declaring your commitment to another person... ... nothing more nothing less. but then i wonder. i know more divorced people than i know married. so is it just a socially acceptable LIE or sham? people are not even surprised anymore when people they know get divorces. hey, did you hear? lisa and bob are spiltsville! no, you dont say. hey, payless is having a half-off sale!" and yes, to marry for religion causes/callings is different. but there are a lot of re-married adulterers too. (adultery in the sense that some churches see re-marriage for any reason other than unfaithfulness as adultery). but religious reasons do not equal all personal reasons. because not everyone marries for God. don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with marriage; but, imo to try and argue that there IS something wrong with choosing NOT to get married, is simply baseless propaganda. but these are just my opinions. what do you think? do you feel that love and commitment can be just as valid for a couple to declare their "till death do us part" for each other without a wedding ceremony? or is marriage essential for "real" commitment?