i'm even thinking about ending our almost 6 year relationship because i can't believe he has the audacity to get me something i am really against. (i was telling him on the phone for over 5 minutes "i won't go" to which he responded "yes you will.")
He sounds like a fantasist and a control freak to me!
I was in a similar situation in the past. I was coming down with flu and I rang my BF (of the time), while I was on my way to see him, to tell him that I didn't think I could make our date, as I was ill. He simply wouldn't accept it and kept saying (in an overly calm voice, if you KWIM?); 'I'll see you soon.'. Every time I protested and said I really couldn't make it, he just said; 'Yes you can.' and; 'I'll see you soon.' again!
I was completely freaked out (probably even more than I would have been normally, because I was feverish!) and I hung up on him and then, instead of going to see him, or going home, I went to stay with a friend he didn't know, just so he couldn't find me!
According to my mum, he spent about 5 hours looking for me on the 20 mile route between our towns on his motorbike. That's how convinced he was that I would obey him!
It was a freezing cold night and I expect he froze his bits off and frankly, if he did, it served him right!!!
Not surprisingly, we never saw each other again!
Although, he later called me and tried to persuade me to meet him for 'lunch'
even though he was living with his new girlfriend at the time!!!
That was the calibre of the creep.
i guess the bottom line is, i'm sick of doing all the traveling, i REALLY don't want to see his family/relatives, and he's trying to make me do something i really don't want to. am i overreacting? will he always be like this? sorry for the long rant, i just needed to let it out.
No you're not overreacting and my worry is, that if he's already like this now, what on earth will he be like in the future, when you're married, or living together?!
Of course, you should make your own decision, but if I were you, I'd
definitely get out now!