hey you guys, i need some feedback about a situation i found myself in last night. one of my coworkers has been saying that she wants to 'take me out for my birthday' for about a month now (my birthday was in decemeber). i don't really like this girl - i won't go in to it, but she has a lot of significant personality flaws, and most people at work avoid her. she thinks, for some reason, that i'm her best friend, which is more than a little irritating, but i try to be nice to her because hey, everyone needs someone to be nice to them. so after some prodding, i agreed earlier this week to let her take me out last night. she tells me to call her after dinner, so i call her about 9:30 and ask her where her and i are meeting up and when. well, turns out it's not just us, it's us and her boyfriend and her other male friend. i thought that was a little odd, since it was supposed to be for my birthday and neither of them know me AT ALL, but whatever. i get there and offer to drive us downtown because i have the biggest car, they all already smell like beer, and parking spots are HARD to come by. i figured, naturally, that she had been telling me it was for my birthday that her or one of them would stay sober and drive my car home. so we head to the first bar and order a drink without so much as an offer to buy me one. she stood right next to me while i ordered and paid, and then as soon as i got my change back, she was like 'awww i was totally going to buy that for you!" ....then why did you just stand there and listen to the girl tell me how much it was, not move, and after sort of an uncomfortable pause while i was waiting for you to chime in, WATCH me pay for it? the other two drinks i had i didn't even bother thinking she was going to pay for. not after that performance. and i only had two others because it quickly became apparent that the three STOOGES i was with were all going to get completely trashed and we would have no one to drive us home. to try to shorten this up, they were also very rude to an old friend that i ran into that wanted to have a drink with me, they complained about going to a bar that i really wanted to go to to get ONE drink, the girl and her boyfriend were making out for half the night, and the extra guy she brought along was WAY older than any of us, was obviously staring at girls that were way to young for him, and half the time was leering at me. they *****ed because i wanted to stop drinking and get some food so i could be sober to drive home, no one offered to pay for me meal (which is fairly customary for the DD around here), when i got out of the restaurant they complained because i wouldn't let them go back to the bars to drink for the last 15 minutes that they were serving, and one of them blew smoke into my car (i have a very strict no smoking rule) when we were getting in to leave. i almost dropped that little twit right there, and if my car smells like smoke this morning, i will track him down and drop him. oh, and at the fairly crowded restaurant, the two guys were LOUDLY yelling about various inappropriate sexual things and getting looks from the people at other tables. i tried to be nice and not *****y all night, because then i wouldn't look like the bad guy, but i finally told them to quiet down because they were bothering people. there were a few other little things, but that was the jist of the night. i drove their rears around, i paid for my own drinks and food, and i basically babysat them. and she was telling me the entire time that it was for my birthday. i wouldn't have gone if i knew that i would be paying for everything, because i can't afford it right now. am i right to be pissed? or am i overreacting? i'm seriously ready to not be the person that's nice to this girl anymore. i have to see her at work in two hours and i'm ready to eat her alive (although i obviously won't make a scene at work), so any advice on how to handle this would be appreciated.