I just wanted to see if anyone here can give me some good advice! I've been with my bf for about 5 years...and there is no doubt that I love him very much and he loves me very much as well. During the relationship, however, there were some infidelity issues on his part (nothing physical, but shady and unfaithful things). I have tried to reclaim my trust for him, but it's difficult to gain it all back. One big problem in the relationship is that we have been really dependent on each other (so now we're on a break/break-up situation. he initiated it because he thought we both really need our time to be our own people and have our own friends. i do agree. we also intend on getting back together when we're both more mature and ready). One of the issues in the relationship is that I started not being able to handle him having female friends. This is largely due to past infidelity and also his choice of female friends in the past were unwise. He assures me now, however, that he just wants to have some girl friends (and if anything, according to him, it would supposedly make him a better bf in terms of how to treat me well). I do trust him to an extent but I also have doubts about the other girls... He is very charming, out-going, humorous, VERY nice to people he's just met (sometimes almost flirty?! That's probably just me ), so he attracts a lot of girls. In a recent occurrence - we are still on a break/break up and he told me he was going to hang out with a girl that hes befriended with in this co-ed frat that he joined recently a month ago (not as hardcore as a lot of the other frats are). He locked himself out of his car which was parked at her apartment, so he called me to rescue him since I happened to have his spare. So I drove 20 minutes from my dorm to her apartment, and saw that he was dressed up and looked really nice. And that made me jealous! I mean he does dress up quite a bit now...but still! Also they went shopping together for her roommate's present...is it just me or is shopping with someone a relatively intimate thing to do? The thing is, I am quite sure there is nothing going on because if there was, he wouldn't have told me about him hanging out with her (we don't talk very much now). Now...are any of you in the same situation or have experienced something similar? What do you do to relieve your insecurities? I hate having to stress! Sorry for the long post!!!