My parents never really taught me about sex. (As it is with the 'how babies are made' question, they gave me books, told me to read them and they'll answer any questions.)
I think parents need to teach kids that sex isn't bad. It's just important to find the right person. (So I'd say both: abstinence as well as safe sex.)
My parents never sat me down and said, "It's REALLY important to us that you wait until marriage." But I do remember, when those stories come up on the news where teenage girls have babies and abandon them, my dad felt the need to say that should I find myself in a situation like that, to not turn to anything that extreme as the girls on the news. That they'd support me and help me. (It was weird of him at the time to say that, but it was sweet of him to point that out.)
Funny story: My dad was driving me back to college after Thanksgiving. It was my freshman year. The car was dead quiet and all of a sudden, he goes, "Speaking of sexually transmitted diseases . . . " I said, "Daddy, thanks for the thought but I've had sex ed in both my freshman and junior years of high school. But thanks anyway."
I'm waiting, but not necessarily until marriage. I just don't believe in one night stands. (And I want my first time to be something other than awkward fumbling. If I wanted that, I could've had sex in high school.)
I think parents need to teach kids that sex isn't bad. It's just important to find the right person. (So I'd say both: abstinence as well as safe sex.)
My parents never sat me down and said, "It's REALLY important to us that you wait until marriage." But I do remember, when those stories come up on the news where teenage girls have babies and abandon them, my dad felt the need to say that should I find myself in a situation like that, to not turn to anything that extreme as the girls on the news. That they'd support me and help me. (It was weird of him at the time to say that, but it was sweet of him to point that out.)
Funny story: My dad was driving me back to college after Thanksgiving. It was my freshman year. The car was dead quiet and all of a sudden, he goes, "Speaking of sexually transmitted diseases . . . " I said, "Daddy, thanks for the thought but I've had sex ed in both my freshman and junior years of high school. But thanks anyway."
I'm waiting, but not necessarily until marriage. I just don't believe in one night stands. (And I want my first time to be something other than awkward fumbling. If I wanted that, I could've had sex in high school.)