I have posted many questions and replies on this particular "area" of relationships and family so forgive me if im starting to annoy you...lol. But I have another question I would like to ask. As many of you know, I am seperated and soon filing for divorce and my soon to be ex and I have worked out custody arrangements for the summer until our 3 year old starts pre school. I was speaking to my parents on our way back home from the Quiet Riot/Vince Neil concert we had just attended (sooo freakin cool by the way!) and my dad started getting really upset at my ex. (He hadnt really showed his emotions) and he told me something that was a little confusing for me. You see, my father grew up without a father (he left my grandmother when my dad was a baby and she had 6 other kids) to marry his mistress. My dad doesnt hate him, but definently has no respect for him at all. So my dad made the comment yesterday that alot of fathers end up not being around their children as much, if at all, after a divorce or seperation because they end up moving on and even starting new families. It's easy for them just to send the child support and occassionally see them. My father is so upset with my ex that he told me that if he starts b!tching about not wanting to see the kids on a particular week or as much not to care or call him out on that. To just be happy that I kept the kids and I'm raising them, not him. Now I dont know if my father said this because of his own personal experience, or even of his own way at getting back at my ex for cheating on me and protecting me, but is this usually true? Do father's tend to lose touch or visits with their kids to move on? All of my friends who had divorced parents seemed to always be with their moms and would see their father during the summer or holidays. I ask this because I think I have finally gotten to a place where I accepted everything and want what's best for my children. I know I cant stop them from seeing their dad just because I dont like him anymore. I have been noticing that he is slowly starting not to want them as long as before. The current arrangement is he gets them 1 night and 2 days and brings them home at night. Well lately he has been bringing them earlier and earlier beacuse he has "things to do" and by that I mean going out with his brother and possibly with the other woman. Does it seem like he will eventually bore of picking up the kids and not want to come and get them as often? What should I do if he stops trying anymore? Do I fight him on that or just be greateful that the kids are with me and are still being raised in a very loving environment?