well here's a good one -- i had a scarf coming from france, and after three weeks i e-mailed the seller to ask him to look into it. the tracking information says it arrived at my post office, was held for 15 days and then sent back. except if it arrived at my post office, they never gave me a notice to pick it up. so now the scarf is on its way back to her, and really neither of us should have to pay the shipping for the second attempt. but someone's got to, since the post office is unlikely to send it for free. any thoughts? offer to split it with her? suck up and pay it, since it would still be less than what my high bid was?