Please guys, I NEED your advice

As much as you probably love him, and even though you may look back on all of those years you have spent together and wish you didn't have to let go of him, I have to say I really don't think he deserves you. If he truly loved you gaining weight wouldn't really matter. Although it is the outside of the person that attracts us to them initially, it is the inner beauty of your signficant other that makes you love them.
 
he's a moron and from experience my mom was morbidly obese and my dad was a prick to her about it and would say twisted things to me which i can tell you added to my messed up body image
 
hes a jerk- listen i know its easy for us to all say this and go ya ya get rid of him etc.. but honesly with comments like that u will only be hurting urself in the long run if u stay.. so tis reallly not worth it.
 
:s I agree with everyone here - DUMP HISS ASS IMMEDIATELY. (Did you really think any self-respecting woman would tell you that he's right?)

If being fit and slim is something that is very important to YOU (before OR after babies) - he should know that about you, especially after being with you for 3 years.

But on another angle - only you can know this for sure - is he saying this to piss you off - so that you might dump him? Pulling the "weak-man's" breakup?

Sorry - I don't know this guy from hole in the wall - just something that occurred to me.

Finally - I am sorry this happened. You sound really hurt and confused. I am glad you have a family that would stick up for you so much that you don't even want to tell them. Good luck.:shame:
 
OH BOY....RUN LIKE THE WIND..................What a freakin A- HOLE!! You deserve so much better than that scum!!

When you find someone who truly loves you FOR YOU....he will NOT care if you were 100 pounds vs 400 pounds..Trust me.....My PHH would care less if I gained a ton of weight and I know it.Thats LOVE.
You will find someone better...concentrate on school....and ditch him FAST.

I have to agree with Jill..leave him now better than later.. obviously he is very confident of the way u love him that ull do anything to be with him even if he humiliates you..not a good sign in my opinion!:sad:
 
This is easy. You already know what to do! If you marry this man, you will be miserable. Period. And he's not going to change. He is shallow, very immature and does not have real love for you. If he did, his love would be unconditional.

Anyone who would put a weight stipulation on you at any point in your relationship has a big problem and does not deserve your love or your time.

Love YOURSELF and MOVE ON! Today!
 
Kick his ass to the curb. I know it's hard after investing 3 years in a relationship, but as my grandma used to tell me, sometimes you just have to cut your losses and move on.

Think about this: What if you get pregnant? Will he consider you "fat" then? What about when you get older, and your metabolism slows down? What if you become ill with a thyroid condition or have to take medication that makes you gain weight? What about when HE gets old and fat? No. You deserve to be with someone who will love you and think you are a goddess unconditionally, no matter what you weigh or how you look. Just walk away.
 
It's good you found this out now and not later. He is a putz! My husband loves me no matter what and I feel the same way. Dump him now and move on even though it will be painful. Imagine how painful it would be if you stayed with him!
 
WOW.....and I suppose this boyfriend of yours is a supermodel, eh? Just absolutely perfect with no faults?

He's a complete and utter jackass. He's actually doing you a favor by saying what he did, because now you know what you are dealing with.

Kick him to the curb, and find yourself a REAL man....I know you can do better! Good Luck, and keep us posted!

P.S. By the way, I hope he knows not to mess with karma, people get what they deserve for their actions...so don't be surprised if you see him in 10 years and he's the one with the enormous ass!
 
You're going to be better off w/out him in your life.

I'm very lucky to be happily married for 7 years. When we got married, I was a size 2 at 5'4" and was this way up until recently. My weight started ballooning and I started to have a host of other problems, lost periods, memory loss, skin changes, etc. No fun, let me tell you. I've been to many specialists, now have it narrowed down to PCOS or early stage Cushings Disease. Bad news either way. Anyways, on to my great hubby, I'm now a size 10!!!!:crybaby: Hopefully not for much longer, my endo is close to getting me fixed.:yahoo: I feel very blue and self conscious about my new figure, but my hubby loves just the same. We still have a VERY active love life, he finds things to complement me on (things about my body he loves) and even though I feel horribly big, he's still attracted to me and makes me feel good.

Women can gain weight for various reasons out of our control. This just shows how shallow and mean your BF is. You can do soooo much better. Good luck to you and keep us posted. Best wishes.
 
Oh my god. Reading that hurt my heart. Let me tell you a story...

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years in January - I'm also still in school, which is why we haven't gotten married. He met me as a slightly overweight girl, but due to unforseen circumstances and with lots of family-related stress, I gained massive weight. By the second year of our relationship my weight had sky rocketted to 265 pounds. He loved me regardless. He told me I was beautiful - he made me feel beautiful, which is probably why I could give two ****s about how much I ate at the time. In '05 I decided to get gastric bypass surgery after I was told that my obesity was affecting my fertility. My boyfriend, though he LOVES thin girls, was completely AGAINST it - not because he wanted me to remain fat, but because he was petrified of losing me on the operating table. It took awhile to convince him - but I did, and I had the surgery in February of 06. I now weigh 150 pounds and am still losing. He nursed me throughout my entire recovery - to the point of learning how to cook in ways that I could eat food. We fight, sure - we fight alot - we both have extremely volatile tempers. But what keeps me going is knowing that this man has loved me through LITERALLY thick and thin - from near 300 pounds to 150 pounds and losing. He still embraces me the same way he did before; he still looks at me with that same attraction. The entire WORLD treats me differently since my weight loss - people tend to dislike fat/unattractive people. But the person you love is supposed to love you for who you are - not for what you look like. Are you sure you want to commit yourself to this person for LIFE? From your story he seems to love the way you look - but hunny, that is all superficial. You may not get fat, but gravity WILL hit - and unless he's a plastic surgeon he needs to accept that he's human as well. Does he think he's found the fountain of youth and will never age? Dump this *******. I'm all for being shallow - but there's an extent. He doesn't sound like he loves you - he loves your appearance. You deserve more.