Im asking only becuase Im curious about what thoughts you all have of all ages. Im 38 ..a few months from 39. My husband is 34. He is READY for children. I love kids and would love a family with him, we have talked about it for ages. I have always said, let me lose 10 pounds, OR get fit...Im not a obese person, however, I have always been 10-15 lbs over weight and the idea of getting pregnant scares the *hit out of me. SO, I think Im selfish in my thinking, and perhaps we should not have a family...He told me last night that if we do not get pregnant in the next few months then it is not meant to be as he does not want to be an old father. (he will be 35 in a few days.) I want so much to make him happy and for us to have a family. HOWEVER, I think we could adopt and I would be complete.Other days I think I need and want for us to have a child of our own BUT Im so afraid of gaining weight and not loosing the weight. I also wonder what will happen to us if we do not have children of our own. Im having a HUGE internal struggle. We are in a WONDERFUL position to adopt, and I would do it in a minute. DH wants his own jeans...so we agree to disagree...and time keeps ticking. Maybe i should just get pregnant in the next few months...although it scares the *hit out of me, Im almost 40!!! I really wanted to vent and also hear what thoughts you all might give to my random words....TALK TO ME!!