I think you are being hard on H!
I don't think you - or any of us who are non-gazillionaire regular nobodies - is "not the customer Hermes is after". Au contraire. I think we are *exactly* the customer H wants. We appreciate the quality and craftsmanship of the products, we recognize true luxury, and we have been (at least historically) prepared to make sacrifices elsewhere in our lives to make it work. We are knowledgeable about the brand. We care about the colour of the HW. Box and VL leathers are not the same thing. The way swift takes etoupe is fundamentally different from how chevre takes etoupe. It matters to us. I would think H vastly prefers you and I to, say, a Lindsay Lohan - whose stylist probably just hands her a Birkin to carry around as a status symbol. Of course it is a business, and will care about customers who spend $$$; but H has not completely sold its soul. It retains all of the traditions that have made it the great house it is - when it could easily farm out production to other countries, reduce standards, etc.
Maybe I have completely bought Dana Thomas' thesis - but I genuinely believe H will always care about the yous and mes of the world. We may never afford croc. We may only afford a new Birkin ever 2 or 3 or 5 years. But if we continue to appreciate H, in whatever volume makes sense for our personal circumstances, H will continue to appreciate us.
Do you really think this is true? I think it's a bit of over-glamorization.
I personally think H does keep it's traditions because it's good business practice for them in the long run. They could farm out production to other countries or reduce standards, but then it would lose it's exclusivity, which is exactly what it tries to market.
In all other aspects - the face of H is simply the face of your SA or your store manager, and if they like you for whatever reason - whether you are appreciative of H, whether you will spend lots of money at the store, whether you have a wonderful smile, everything is fine.
It's just another company, in the end.