hi all i really don't know how to handle this... so i'm going to put it out there in the hopes i'll get some good advice. we have two little children, a 2 year old and a 4 month old. we have a nanny who comes in to help me. she is more like a mother's helper as she doesn't do any real housework except empty and load the dishwasher and some laundry and i am mostly around. i received a 50$ bouquet of flowers on saturday from my husband and 2 year old. on monday i changed the water and left them in their vase in the kitchen. i was rushing out the door to get the baby to the doctor for his shots and they were wet so i didn't put them back in the living room. when i came back the flowers were gone. i called the nanny and she claimed she threw them out vase and all!!! she's never been asked to deal with flowers. i said i would go look for them in the trash, to at least salvage my vase. i found nothing. i call her back and she says she left the whole bouquet including the vase on the ground near the green bin used for vegetable waste product. again nothing... it is so weird. why would someone throw out the vase, even assuming they thought the flowers were garbage - which they obviously were not... why not ask? i have a feeling she thought they were garbage and decided to take them home and would just return the vase the next day but was too embarrassed to fess up so she lied. either way this is so messy... why lie? why throw out a vase? i just don't get it. remember i trust this person with my children!!! what would you do? how would you handle this???