My best friend has breast cancer. She had a second bout with it last spring. She is like a mother to me. My mom died 3+years ago from cancer. My best friend (second Mom) has been there for me for 23 years........and I for her. I always felt uneasy with her breast cancer, so many mistakes were made by doctors, things missed and not reported. So she has been telling me for over a year she is still at stage II cancer and I keep thinking it just can't be becuas of the double mast. and lymph node involvement and chemo she was last put on (which was for metastatic cancer)which she says she does not have. I get all test results and the last pet scan reads stage 4 breast cancer and she is still saying it is wrong her doctor never said that. OK????? So I talk to her dear friend this morning and find out she tells me and her friend different things (leaves out so much for each of us). She tells her friend she has stage 4 breast cancer...... Of course I am devastated, I really felt in my heart this wasn't good from day one but I feel I can't call her on this, for whatever reason she did not want to tell me. We have always told each other everything and she had dealt with so much with her ex and things were really bad when we first met---she is a different person now and I am so proud of what she did--became such a strong person. I also found out that she has a lump on her chest wall that she told me about 3 weeks ago. I told her to have them biopsy it today when she was in surgery for something else and she said they couldn't but would do a MRI in the future. She told me she found the lump. Her friend told me the doctor/maybe test found the lump and it was supposed to be biopsied today. So it is just more confusing. I am scared for her, I feel a bit lost because I just can't come out and say "you lied" to me because her friend and I will not mention what was said between us. I just need to whine.............and it is a safe place here. I am not sure if she can get any more chemo, and they said no radiation for her with the second bout of cancer. She is supposed to visit for a long vacation in a few weeks and I pray this won't cancel her plans.