Mother Supplies Kids With Cannabis So That They Wont Visit Street Dealers

  1. By SALLY EMERSON - For The Dailymail.

    Nicola Cooper said she wanted to protect her children

    What kind of madness made gentle-faced teaching assistant Nicola Cooper provide her children with cannabis?

    This week, she was ordered by a judge to do 200 hours' community work after police found £200 worth of cannabis resin in her Suffolk home, where she was supplying it to her teenage son and daughter so they wouldn't have to visit street dealers.
    Did Nicola Cooper have any idea how very stupid she was being?
    Smoking cannabis more than doubles your risk of psychotic illnesses such as schizophrenia.
    Immense damage can be done to the growing brains of children when they smoke the high strength cannabis available today.
    In their defence, Nicola Cooper and her husband called themselves 'liberal parents'.
    Liberal with what - danger? Surely it is better to be liberal with security, good sense and love, than liberal with drugs.
    The word liberal today seems to excuse all manner of pernicious behaviour.
    It is defined as meaning 'abundant, ample, giving freely, generous, open minded, not strict or rigorous'.

    But sometimes it is not a good idea to be open-minded.
    No one is open-minded about paedophilia.
    And if the scientific evidence stacks up and shows, as it does, that cannabis can devastate young lives, why should anyone be open-minded about that?
    However 'liberal' your views, it is not worth the risk.
    As for the argument that she bought the children drugs so they didn't get mixed up with dangerous dealers, it simply does not stand up.
    On the same basis, you could give your child a gun to prevent them getting mixed up with gun dealers.
    But no sane parent would give their children guns. I confess that I used to have relaxed views about cannabis, thinking it not a lot worse than alcohol.
    But I don't now. Cannabis destroys lives much faster than alcohol.
    I have seen friends of my children virtually wiped out by cannabis in a couple of years.
    One clever child I know is only just getting herself back on track after years of cannabis abuse.
    She has wasted three years of her life and reached rock bottom. She has taken her family to hell and back.
    Now she is getting better but it will take years before her selfesteem recovers.
    Nicola Cooper, who is 43, said she herself had used cannabis 'on and off' since she was 18 and she probably not only supplied her children with the drug but also smoked it with them.
    If so, it would have been deeply misguided.
    A child's sanity is more valuable to any parent than a few convivial evenings smoking cannabis with them - a few evenings making yourself feel young and cool, at their expense.
    The point is that, apart from the damage cannabis can inflict, children do not want their parents to be cool.
    They want parents who, while showing love and friendship, also support them and guide them - and tell them in no uncertain terms when behaviour is unacceptable because it places them in danger.
    Bob Dylan proclaimed in the Sixties: "Come mother and fathers throughout the land. And don't criticise what you can't understand."
    But too many of today's parents have taken him too literally - now we probably try to understand too much, and are too forgiving, not rigid enough.
    No parent should be so cool that they become their children's personal drug dealer, opening up the doors to danger when they should be warning you against the dangers of drugs.

    Children are natural mimics; they often reflect your life, if not immediately, then in later years.
    The wealth of evidence about the dangers of cannabis cannot be ignored. Susan Greenfield, professor of pharmacology at Oxford University, has studied the effect of cannabis on the brain.
    It can leave users with permanent damage to their ability to reason, she says.
    "Three or four cannabis cigarettes a day are equivalent to 20 or more tobacco cigarettes, regarding damage to the lining of the bronchus, while the concentration of carcinogens in cannabis smoke is actually higher than in cigarettes," she adds.
    Marjorie Wallace, chief executive of the mental health charity Sane, has commented on the surge in mental health hospital admissions due to cannabis.
    Apart from the extreme physical dangers - the dangers of madness and mental illness - cannabis can destroy children's ability to study.
    If you want your child to hand in work late, to skip school, to get up later and later, to fail exams, then, sure, encourage them to smoke cannabis, give them the idea that a quick hit is the way to happiness rather than hard work.
    Go ahead, foist your liberal post-Sixties ideals on the poor dears - but it might well wreck their lives.

    And if any child has a tendency to addiction, letting them smoke cannabis can encourage this.
    Of course, cigarettes and alcohol are bad, too, but do you really want to add to the number of addictions, particularly a really dangerous one like this?
    Do not believe those who claim it is not addictive. Once you're hooked, the drug is always there, tapping its fingers, waiting for you.
    And who can the addicted child look to for advice?
    Certainly not the parent who encouraged the addiction in the first place.
    Good parents have to retain the respect of their children. Good parents don't smoke joints with them, and think it's wise to avoid being drunk or over-amorous in front of them (Alan Bennett wrote that: "Children always assume the sexual lives of their parents come to a grinding halt at their conception").
    Even dancing over-enthusiastically can cause grimaces of horror.
    Children want their parents to be slightly dull.
    Nigella Lawson once said, very soundly, that when a mother has children she should want to be the frame round them, and no longer the picture.
    And this means that parents should not brazenly flout the law in front of their children.
    The judge spoke of Nicola Cooper's 'sheer arrogance' in acting as if the law did not apply to her.
    It is one thing to have some person of your own age break the law and lead you astray.
    At least you can then turn away from them and abandon their company.

    However, when your own parents break the law and encourage your complicity by giving you drugs, who is then left for you to turn to? The relationship between parents and their children is the basic building block for society. Without it, we're done for.
    We need our parents to provide us with stability, authority, a sense of right and wrong, a respect for the law, a code of conduct, and in doing so give us an emotional strength.
    Parents should be a bit boring.
    Someone once said that listening to parents' advice was like watching commercials.
    You know what's coming, you've heard it all before, but you listen anyway.
    Once you let children glimpse that maybe you are no better than they are, you risk losing their respect.

    If you are not a figure of authority, then when you really need to save your children you won't have power.
    It will have been eroded.
    When they are taking the car out when they're drunk, they won't want to hear your blandishments.

    There's a Chinese proverb which says: "Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who step on their toes."
    We have all seen children who seem lost and confused because they have not been given boundaries.
    They have been allowed to do whatever they like.

    They grow up rude, swearing.
    They grow up without certainties because they don't respect anyone.
    That is dangerous enough. How much worse to offer children the means to wreck their health, their family and their future.
  2. I'm not condoning her behavior, but a lot of parents also give their children alcohol for the same reason. Cannabis is not physically addicting, alcohol is. I thought that cannabis had been decriminalized in the UK? I guess maybe since they were minors that's why she's in trouble, not to mention the other issues.
  3. I was expecting her name to be - Britney....
  4. She smoke cannabis on-off since a teenager herself... so, no wonder..

    I am instantly reminded of the mother of a friend of mine. My friend was addicted to heroin few years back, mum found out about it, friend made her plea that she can't just quit cold turkey, mum accepted her plea and took daughter to the dealer herself. My friend stop the drug gradually after she settled in methadone.

    Back to topic, I agree with Roo, I think the problem is more to the fact that her children are minor.

  5. Why do you think it is not addictive - l have a son in law who regularly smoked cannabis and he went through a lot of counselling and expense trying to give this up. He has managed to with great help from the family and occassionally has a relapse. I also have a work colleague whose 30 year old son committed suicide and was hospitalised several times before finally killing himself by throwing himself off a bridge in front of a train just over a year ago, the drug messes with the brain.
  6. ^^

    What I meant was that marijuana is not PHYSICALLY addictive. It is psychologically addictive, yes, and can affect seratonin levels in the brain.

  7. Thanks Roo for the clarification - l still think that the mother who has supplied this to her children is wrong and is misguided. I would do anything to protect my children as would so many on this forum and l really cannot understand her reasons .
  8. What a bloody idiot that woman is! Whatever happened to "No you don't do drugs, full stop!"
  9. ^ but its totally like cool right now! Everyone should smoke sumthin' if the rappers do it, its good for us too! :rolleyes:
  10. I guess this goes along the same lines as parents supplying or giving access to alcohol at parties so that their kids are drinking in a "controlled" environment.

    I think she was in the wrong and made a pretty big mistake. I've never smoked pot before and don't have any interest in it either, so I'm not sure why someone would want to give it to their kids...But I guess she'll have to pay for her mistakes.