boxermom, if this is true and she refuses to participate in therapy, then she is obviously very troublesome. Is there any way for someone to shake her out of this? She needs a big slap in the face to wake up. Noone should waste their life like that. And it's not like she is misfortunate and needs sympathy... She doesn't have health problems,she's rich and has a career. How hard is it to stay on track and appreciate what you have?