I've been venting here recently far too much, but I have just one more lament that's making me feel sort of superficial ... So my boyfriend and I have had a bit of a rough road so far, not emotionally really, but because we're both starting out in life and our respective careers have been a challenge for our relationship. I'm a grad student, and while I make enough to support myself and the occasional bag, I'm certainly not financially solvent. When I met my boyfriend last spring, he was in law school and didn't have a dime to his name. He didn't have a car and he lived in a dorm! He was lucky to have caught a foxy lady like me . When we went out on dates I basically picked him up at the dorm and whatever we ended up doing I would usually pay. Once he graduated he started his job hunt and lived at home with his parents 3 hours away from me. He got to use his parent's Mobil credit card, so he could come visit me at will basically and did, but when he came down or I went up I paid for almost everything. Especially this fall, he was truly broke. He got a job in December (yay! he's an associate at a firm in town), moved back here, and is settling into his new place. I thought finally, finally things will go better for us, we can relax. Well, after student loan payments, credit card payments (he doesn't have much credit card debt thankfully, but some), paying back his moving stipend to his firm, rent, utilities, phone...my boyfriend has a spare $25 a month until June, at which point he'll have paid off his moving stipend and have an extra hundred bucks a month or so. You know, enough to feed himself. He just figured this out today and called me... So basically, until June, I have a boyfriend who can't afford to pay for anything, I mean, even food. And he needs stuff, he only has one shirt for work, for example, he wears the same shirt every day underneath the same suit EVERY DAY. He can't do that until June! But if I start paying for his food and his clothing and necessities, I'm going to go broke. I don't know what to do! Should I encourage him to get a high-interest store credit card just to put the necessities on for awhile, like a few new work shirts? I don't know how he'll ever be able to pay it off if he's got that little per month coming in. Should I just suck it up and buy him some clothes (and food), put it on my credit card? Asking his parents for money really isn't an option at this point... Do things ever get better?? When I get out of school I'll have student loans and credit card debt too, I'll be making next to nothing for awhile, if he's still making next to nothing we'll be the poorest two people with advanced degrees I know! And, the most shallow comment of all, when oh when will I get to stop paying for dates (I know, I know, just stay home, but sometimes a gal wants to get out of the house)!! Being a gal is expensive enough! I don't want to be supporting my boyfriend for years on end. Ugh, sorry for the rant, maybe some of you who've been through this stage in life can lend some advice. I'm already returning the spring clothing I bought because I'm realizing how expensive the next few months with boyfriend are going to be, and I'm definitely off purses for, like, ever. I know we make sacrifices for our significant others, maybe I'm just now realizing the shape that those sacrifices will take.