Hello all~~ I'm writing in from Asia! I really missed everyone on tPF!! I did have the privilege of meeting some of the awesome ladies over on this side of the Pacific though, they are truly sweethearts! ^__^ Anyways, as some of you know, I have been trying to find a job in Singapore so that I can move and be with my SO. I have done some interviews with the #1 choice company but so far I have not heard back since the last interview (which is over a week ago) after I sent a follow-up email. So, I took the advice of people around me and called up headhunters on Singapore. Some of the experience had left me open-mouthed with disbelief ... Please tell me if this is a normal occurrence and that I'm just overreacting. :s When I was talking to headhunters, they all started out rather nice and friendly toward me. I tried to enuniciate and speak slower as some people here have complained that my American accent was difficult to understand (one of the headhunters said so in passing). The headhunters were all impressed with my background as I described to them what I do over the phone. However, their reaction always changed when it came to the point where they asked me for my lastname. Here was what happened on several instances: Headhunter: I am really impressed with your background. I don't see any problem with finding you a job in a managerial level. Me: Great! *happy* Headhunter: So you said you are American, right? You in Singapore right now? Me: Yes I am. Headhunter: What is your name? Me: XXX XXXX Headhunter: What?? What's your lastname? I think I heard wrong. Me: XXXX Headhunter: But you said you're American. You sure you're not Singaporean? Me: No, I'm American. I'm a citizen. Headhunter: But your lastname is XXXX!! Me: Yes, it is. *confused* Headhunter: No no. You're not American. Your lastname is Asian. Americans are white. I also want you to know that you can't be a manager level. Me: :O The disturbing thing was, the similar line of conversation happened with several other headhunters as well. It really annoys me because they were nice to me until they heard my lastname correctly. Then it appears that everything else flew out the door. I mean, WHY does it matter if my lastname is not "American"?!! Also, the moment they felt that I was not "American" enough, suddenly my qualification was not good enough as well. It really really pisses me off. At first I just thought maybe I found the wrong headhunter, but then similar things happened with several other ones that followed. Another thing ... several of them were asking quite a lot of things about my personal life. They asked me if I was single, if I was do I have a boyfriend, if my boyfriend is PR in Singapore, and if so what are my plans with him. I don't quite understand why these line of questioning ... isn't it private??? Are these normal occurrences in Asia? I mean, maybe I'm just not understanding the culture ... If it's normal, then I'll just suck it up ... But right now, I'm confused.