I was just looking again for the perfect everyday bag. You'll have to let me know if I have been successful - help me decide! Do you use totes, such as the gallery totes, as purses? For every outfit, for grocery store, mall, out on the town; for just wallets, keys, cell, sunglasses and the like? Or do you think a purse that looks like a purse is better for everyday? I don't like to carry too much, but I like to be able to not jam everything into my bag and have space for random items (like Kleenex and maybe some Cheerios for the kiddos!) I admired this tote on someone (someone's grandma - what does that say!?!??) the other day and now that I have it, I am wondering if it is too "tote" like, and not very "purse" like. These are the two I am now considering - the gallery lunch tote and the med soho flap (sorry for the scale - I don't know how to fix the size. The soho is as wide as the tote is high IRL): Are totes more for work? Like to carry major stuff (planners, papers, etc.), or do you use them as purses? Is it too hard to reach so far down to get your wallet? Is the soho flap very annoying? Is it the magnetic closure, or the shape? Which closure do you like? The zipper that comes all undone to open the tote, or the magnetic closure? Thanks for your input! Wish I could decide by now!!!