yeah, chinese parents tend to talk about traditions and their chinese friends alot. but then again, most of their friends ARE probably just chinese lol. you should give your DH a whoopin for being insesitive. i always make a point to tell my SO when he's not being supportive and nice then i tell him he better shape up or i'll blow up. hopefully, your in laws are leaving soon then you can have peace and quiet. if not, either avoid them as much as possible or finally confront your MIL. chinese people can be very very stubborn but i feel like you have to get in their face and get it over with