I had a friend who's mom had her when she was young - about 17 or so. My friend's mom loved her daughter and they were a lot like sisters. In fact they looked like sisters and were often mistaken for sisters. My friend too married straight out of high school and now has a child of her own. She says her relationship with her mother changed dramatically when she had a child. Instead of being supportive (like most mothers are) her mom got kind of distant and unhappy, and angry. My friend persuaded her mom to come for some counselling with her, and after some time it came to light that the mother did NOT want to be older - grow older, I mean. Having a grandchild was sort of 'being old' whereas her own children could be passed off as her sisters but the grandchild made her aware that she was getting older. She didn't even want the kid to say 'grandma' but some other name that was like her first name!
My friend and her mom are getting along, but are really not close anymore. She's sad, but can't do much about it.
My friend and her mom are getting along, but are really not close anymore. She's sad, but can't do much about it.