How old were you when you had your first child?

  1. My husband and I are thinking of starting a family and I am wondering if its too late.
    At 38, I know time is not on my side. I am wondering if anyone else is in the same situation??
    Or, do you know someone who is? :hrmm:
     
  2. I was 31 when Dh and I had our daughter. I'm glad I didn't have her any later and am beginning to understand why people have kids in their twenties. BUT with that said, I don't think it's too late for you at 38! But if you're going to do it -- do it NOW!

    I have a neighbor friend who is an infertility nurse and she has told me how dramatically a woman's fertility falls between the ages of 36 and 40. It's amazing! BUT she always points out how she was 41 when she had her child.

    Also, be up for the idea of having an only child. You may only be able to do this once! You may only want to too!

    I do know SEVERAL moms who waited until they were either very late thirties or forties to have their child. It can be done -- but do it now and don't hesitate to see an infertility specialist if you don't get pregnant within 4 to 6 months -- or whatever timeline you've been given.

    Good luck -- parenting is something you'll likely NEVER regret -- it's totally awesome -- even on the not-so-good days!
     
  3. Or multiples ;).

    Most of my co-workers have started to have children at 38. Three have successfully gotten pregnant naturally. The last has been trying for a year and a half and I think she has just started Clomid. Clomid does increase your chances for multiples. I'm TTC at 30 and it isn't the immediate gratification I was hoping for.

    If you decide to try to conceive, come visit us in the TTC thread. We just kind of wait around in there :p.
     
  4. I know we won't regret it, we are going to be great parents. I have already thought about the only child thing and have no problem with it. Many families around here only have one child.
    Do you know if your friends have trouble conceiving? Thats my big worry :sweatdrop:
     
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  6. I was 21 when I gave birth to Julia :smile:
     
  7. Thats a great age to have a daughter, but at 21, I was sooo not ready. My Mom was 21 when she had me and we have a great relationship.
     
  8. 29~ we were not ready until then...especially DH:nuts:
     
  9. We weren't really ready either...but, we had to get our stuff in order pretty quick! Things are pretty great now, we are very lucky to have very supportive families who are there for us and are ready to help if we ever need it.

    Just have to make the best out of the situation that you're in! All that matters is that Julia has a family that loves her and would do anything in the world for her :smile:
     
  10. ^^ You have a great perspective! I don't think I was as mature as you at 21!
     
  11. Was 33 when I gave birth to my daughter and will be 35 when I have my son in a about 7 weeks.

    A friend of mine had her first at 31 and had her son last year at 40. Two other friends had kids last year at 36 and 37.

    It is def. possible. You should see your dr. soon and get some sort of plan going if you're really serious about this.

    Best of luck!
     
  12. 21. It's on the young side, but no regrets.
     
  13. 28 - for me the perfect age.

    I have heard of a lot of people who had their first child in their mid to late 30s. get going now and hopefully everything works out for you!
     
  14. *I'm not trying to freak you out!*

    While I don't think 38 is too old to be a parent, I do know that my aunt (who had her girls at 39 and 41) had MAJOR health problems in both of her pregnancies. Could have just been her, but she needed alot of drugs to conceive, and it took her a very long time to get preg. Obviously I'm not you, but medical insemination/fertility drugs seem scary to me. If you're worried about being able to conceive, you could always adopt.
     
  15. I am 32 and TTC now.