I have been thinking about getting a hobo bag for some time and today was the first time that I tried on one IRL and my first reaction was . I found the bag very stiff near the top zipper. Is it because the bag is new and it will soften and become slouchy with use? Did you have to do anything to your bag to get it to be soft and slouchy, like I see in the photos? Or did I just try out a bag with bad, stiff leather? I still love the style and size, but I'm just not so much in love with the feel. Thanks.