I'd put some nuances into your last comment. There are some women who play dirty to show they're as tough as men. Sadly, I know of those. Years later, after life could be said to have dealt her a bad hand, one apologized to me. But those years in-between were not easy! When a women mistreats another women, there is a sense of betrayal.Well said, Mindi.
A good friend of mine years ago told me that she would never ever say something negative against a female co-worker because she wanted to fight the culture of women being mean to each other in the workplace. She thought that being nice, and never say anything negative would become a good examples for others.
This was three years ago.
Recently she told me she was giving up. "Other women are making it more and more difficult for me to shut up". The last drop was when a co-worker stated calling her "fat duckling" because she gained some weight after the surgery that removed her reproductive organs. She is smart, decent human being, very good at her job, but she is forced to defend herself on a field in which she doesn't want to play.
I am not sure why women cannot just compete on the professional field like men do.
I think you are referring to men with integrity and thankfully, those do exist. How much they are a model for ambitious women I can't tell b/c I haven't seen any imprinting yet. The difficulty is that "decent" can be construed as "nice" and "nice" becomes "weak" which can come across as vulnerable.