I can't decide on which one I want. I know that no matter what, it will be in black. If I do go for the tote, I will be able to get the matching stripe accordion wallet with it since it's cheaper than the Carly. And if you recommend the Carly, which size? I just gave birth to my son so I can't go to the mall to try them on myself (doctor says keep him at home during flu season) so I have no idea what they look like on actual people. If you happen to own one of the purses (tote included), can you please post a picture of you wearing them so I can see how they look? Thanks so much!