If someone hears something unkind or unpleasant about someone that matters in their life, should they tell them? Do you expect someone to tell you if they hear negative gossip about you? How much honesty is too much? For me, it is tricky. It depends on how negative it is. I'd like to know if someone was saying it to me, so I would probably tell the person. But I think it would depend on who's saying it and who it's about.