My best friends Mother died last weekend after a fairly short yet cruel and somewhat unusual illness and now I am left in a quandary about two aspects of how to handle things. My housemate (who I think I am in love with but that is not the issue here!) is adamant that he is going to come to the funeral with me as the news has hit me VERY hard due to losing my own mother when I was 16 (I'm 25 now) and having my best friends Mother become like a Mum to me, so yeah, I'm suffering. I don't know how appropriate it is for him to come with me though, I feel like I really want him to be there with me but as he doesn't know my best friend all that well..... any advice? I just feel that if I have some support there then I can be of more of a support for her, plus, I have to drive 70 miles each way to go to the funeral - his thinking is also that he will drive so I don't have to. My second dilemma is that I have a black outfit, nice black trouser suit with a shirt but no black shoes. I have one pair but can only stand to wear them for about an hour before my feet start to cry and will be on my feet all day at the funeral and wake! I wanted to ask if it was appropriate to wear the black outfit with a pair of red heels with a red handbag as they're the only smart shoes I have as I normally live in trainers! Any advice gratefully received - sorry for the rambling, hope this makes sense!