I haven't been around TPF much because I've been having the worst couple of weeks in years. We have a very sick family member, really bad cancer, who we are trying to help who has always been difficult and has now gotten herself in a major dilemma and has a serious illness. Its just complicated but that isn't the point of this post. My family looks to me to take care of things, and its a hard role. I expected that my best friends would be calling me (one is even a nurse!) but they haven't been. I'm hurt and I don't know why when they know something about what is going on they don't call to check in or at least send and e-mail or text message of support. One friend has even sent me stupid forwards and an e-mail all about her life without once discussing my e-mail to her where I said I was going crazy dealing with this and it was so hard. I think I've been a good friend to her especially, I even came up for a weekend when her boyfriend dumped her and she asked me too. She cried all weekend and I was there. When she calls me about her job I was always here. Here I am with a sick family member, my family is miserable and I don't even get a call?!? I sent everyone text messages last night because I was really upset, one friend I called, who called me back, but I don't even want to answer? (Yeah maybe I should have called, but I'm not confrontational and the text messages were hard enough). How do you know when its time to move on and put new people into your life? These are all people who I've listened to and comforted for hours over things like their work and boyfriends and girlfriends, now I'm dealing with a family member with a serious form of cancer and that's only part of the story. I'm very lucky to have a supportive fiance, but I'm so hurt by my three friends.