my friend is deep in anorexia. i've been dealing with it but it's harder than i could ever imagine. long story short i had agreed to help her with her business. she was going to get treatment while i ran her business. then she decided she wanted to still run it but have me there to help her- in case she wasn't well enough to do it. i spoke with her 2 weeks ago and decided that i couldn't because doing that would be enabling her and she wouldn't get better. well today i got totally blindsided and a VERY close family member, a mutal friend and she basically called me and browbeat me in to helping her. i was told she would lose her business, she couldn't afford therapy and she would have no will to live if i didn't do this for her, among other things. i was told every other friend agreed to help but couldn't and i was the only one who could help but wouldn't. i am heartbroken. it is very hard for me to put my foot down and i NEVER go with my gut feeling and my gut told me not to do this and i was strong in my conviction that i wouldn't. and now i have to. i feel like i'm being told that if i don't she will die. she has edema and is in bad shape- though her friend and family member told me she is getting better. i finally agreed because i couldn't take her crying and the pressure. all of this while i was at work with appointments to see. then i came home to my mom telling me i was an idiot to do this. i don't really need solutions but would love to know that other people have been through this. i just feel at a loss. i spoke to someone in NEDA the other day and have talked to some friends and family about it. i just don't know that doing this is helping. and i feel like i can't even talk to her because everything i say is met with excuses and bargains etc.