Workplace Do you think you can influence your BF/DH´s career ?

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My DH was first gonna go to school to be a mechanic which I said no, he was just trying to take the easy way out. (And he would need a WAY bigger salary to be able to afford the lifestyle we one day wish to have)so now he is studying to be a Computer engineer. So proud of him :biggrin:
 
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Yes I think you can influence your SO/DH in his career path. I have influenced my GH to go into medicine with his Econ/finance background. He originally wanted to become a stockbroker. Now, wants to own and manage hospitals.

But I think the most important thing is HOW and WHY you are guiding/influencing him that way. In the end, he must like what he is doing.

I also feel that, if I'm happy with my life and my career, it really doesn't matter to me what my DH does as long as he's happy with his career.
 
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IntlSet said:
They say behind every good man is a great woman -- so true. Guys can really clean up their acts if given a motive (i.e.: YOU!).

I realize I may sound like a control-freak here, but I'm totally not -- I think it's just a matter of knowing what you want. If you KNOW you want a man who is ambitious, driven, dedicated, successful, etc.... you'll get him -- and if you're lucky, it'll turn out to be the guy you're already with, because I believe men really can change. Sometimes they need a little direction.

Good luck to ya!
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Agreed! :yes:

I definately influence my DH's career. He says a successful man makes more money than his wife can spend and a successful woman makes more money than her husband can make! Smart man! LOL

I agree with Swanky as well that everyone in a close relationship has SOME influence over the other's career choices. I quit working because my DH pushed me to after I had awful morning sickness while pregnant with my second child. I had never planned on quitting but he had ALWAYS wanted me to. With the sickness and his pushing I finally did it!
 
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Syntagma said:
Agreed! :yes:

I definately influence my DH's career. He says a successful man makes more money than his wife can spend and a successful woman makes more money than her husband can make! Smart man! LOL

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Yeah, smart man !!:yes:
Reading you all I understand that 1) I need to stand by him 100% or not at all and leave.
2) You can influence your husband´s career path in terms of choice but not really his motivation/ambition level (more a personality thing)
SoCal, I was impressed by your story !! it´s great your husband could finally make the most of his potentials.
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