Because my husband does. Just now I was sitting there crying while he was saying mean things and insulting me, so I asked him why he married me and he said "because I thought you would change". The fight started because I told him that it not only hurt my feelings that his mom didn't make me a birthday dinner, and that every holiday I go over to his grandma's I have nothing to eat. I'm vegetarian...and they never ever make me anything. I should add that I moved to the states and have no family or friends here that would normally do it for me. Anyways he got really defensive about this and we didn't talk for days. I always want to talk and work it out...he doesn't. So the night before last he left and went drinking with his friends, I called him and told him not to bother coming home because I'm sick of him doing that every time we fight, and of course he didn't come home. He also told me that he told his mom that my feelings were hurt and that she said "I don't know what to say" at that point I had to leave the room because it upset me so much. I thought we got along really well and were friends, but that kind of response is not loving and implies that she is either indifferent or does not care. So I emailed her telling her that her response hurt my feelings and that was 2 days ago and I've yet to hear back. (I emailed because there was no way I could have gotten through that conversation). I don't know what to do anymore. He won't stick up for me, he thinks my feelings are rediculous and actually told me that I was just a selfish snot because "it's not my mom's job to cook you a birthday dinner". Just typing that now...it sounds so crazy that someone would actually say that.