I seem to have that problem .. my 4 year old is friends with a boy and a girl (brother and sister) who are her age and wants to be with them 24/7! I want my kid to be happy and have frineds but i dont really enjoy the kids mom! .. she is too clingy and will call at odd hours aside from bringing them over every hour of the day .. she is a working mom so i think she feels guilty that her kids are home alone with the nanny and asks me to either let my daughter go over to their house to play or that her kids come over to my house to play .. sometimes i just wana have fun alone at home with my kids and sometimes i dont wana have other kids over .. i am not cruel or mean or cheap but i dont like how clingy she is becoming .. (my kids are bored could your daughter come over while i am at work? she cant? could they come over then?) I am running out of excuses .. that aside .. she also pops up on weekends and whenever she is free .. she calls alot .. (can i come over for lunch? can YOU come over?) i mean ok our kids are close but leave ME alone! dont get me wrong she is nice and sweet and is a good friend but its getting on my nerves lately .. i dont wana be with YOU every second of my free time .. even if i have nothing to do but stare at the ceiling .. (i miss your kids .. can I/u come over?) .. i mean come on! .. we are adults here .. she also has a wierd way of raising her kids .. she gives them too much "depth" .. i mean if her son doesnt say hi to someone (as sometimes kids do .. they just refuse to say hi) .. she has to analyze it and say that (he FEELS that she doesnt like him or that he FEELS that i dont really like this woman so he subconsciously doesnt like her either) .. come on he is just 3!! .. not everything he says or does has to be analyzed and have a deeper meaning .. if another kids bites her kids .. hell breaks loose (my kids are always tortured by others cuz they are too polite and nice to fight back .. my kids are always picked on .. my kids are too sensetive .. too emotional ... etc) ... my god!!! how can i slowly pull away from being her friend without hurting her or hurting our kids friendship? i dont care if my daughter never sees them again but i wana do it gradually .. any suggestions??? do i have to be friends with someone just cuz our kids are?