OK . We are going through bad times. We are in the Finance Business, and at the moment it is really hard. Lenders/dealers are pulling out of the market on a daily basis. our livelihood is in jeopardy. I have recently sold a load of my scarves that I dont wear alot to try and justify my new purchases. It has been a particularly bad day, DHs partners are relying on him, and I do feel for him. He is having awful time. But this evening he turned on me, and said I am selfish and shallow!!! I really want to cry, but I am damned if I will ever cry in front of any man ,or anybody!! I know he doesnt really mean it, and HEY I admit I am a little shallow (me and DH normally joke about it!!) BUT, what if seriously H has made me sooo shallow??? What if it has really distorted my grip on real life??? Does this thought of how much you spend sometimes make you feel restless and GUILTY?? is the pleasure of opening that Orange box REALLY WORTH IT???