If I were you, I'd document everything via email, including the discussion that you had with your boss. You might even want to copy her boss. Just so everyone is on the same page. It's a good way to CYA.
Cryptic Messages from Bosses... WTF!
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honestly, I think I would only do this for serious matters like sexual harrassment. And this is why; alot of times this will be perceived negatively, like you are keeping score of who is right and who is wrong. And the powers that be watch to see how smoothly you will integrate with other employees - ie; are you someone who looks for loopholes or are you someone who uses common sense to discern what is expected of you from the employer? Copying her boss on such an e-mail could be construed as intimidating and further alienate you from your co-workers. KWIM?
it does indeed suck. you can't change people though. thats why I've had a few different jobs in my day! I stayed mobile....
Haha! gawd, if I had to put up with that, I think I'd be the same. There will always be office politics, I work in an office and there are here, but i'm not policed with everything I do, in fact I am writing this at work right now. I know that this isn't always the norm, and that's ok, but there are definitely ways of taking it too far.
thats the whole reason I left the corporate life behind. now I work with animals but you know what - there are politics here too! you just can't get away from it completely.
but at least I'm not around people all day long. There is definitely a finesse in existing in a corporate environment but it isn't for everyone. Including me.
bagnshoofetish said:When they feel you are part of their permanent "tribe" they eventually will. Be a kind, cool person that works hard (but doesn't have to remind people of how hard you work) and people will warm up to you. If not, then just remember you are there to provide a service to your employer in exchange for financial compensation - you are not there to make friends and enlarge your social circle. You can be kind to people without having to be everyones best buddy.
Sorry to be so long winded but I have alot to say having been in the workforce since I was 15 (I am now 44) and have seen this scenario over and over again. Someones gotta benefit from my pain!
Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. I'm glad it was long winded! I totally agree with everything you said. It's all so clear now!!!
And thanks to everyone else who took the time to respond. You all have such wonderful advice and thoughts and I greatly appreciate it!
I've been really nice to everyone at work but I'm just a reserved person in general. I take friendship very importantly and have to really respect a person to become close. I've been hurt a lot in the past so I suppose I'm guarding that now. I'm friends with a few people, all men. Isn't that strange? They're all gay (I work at a Performing Arts Theater) so I have a feeling that they feel a lot less threatened by me than the girls do.
I'm in college right now and I've taken a few anthropology classes on the way to getting my History and Psychology BAs. It is fascinating how no matter where or in what culture people live they are always the same
. After majoring in the social sciences I've had a reawakening! We're no more superior than people who live in tribes in the rainforest when it comes to social codes of inclusion. Plus, just like we like to adorn ourselves with bags and shoes and jewels they decorate themselves with beautiful objects as well We're all just animals anyway
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OMG I think you are my twin!
No wonder it all makes sense to you! Anthropology was the best thing you could have studied! You wanna see a hostile social environment, just watch chimps for a few days!
This is exactly my philosophy as well.
lorihmatthews said:
I think that's going overboard. I agree that it's a good idea to cover my ass but tt's not really that big of a deal. I'm just frustrated in general.
FYI, I work in the box office at a large performing arts center on a public university campus. I don't think it counts as a corporation. It seems to be a fairly laid back environment for everyone but me!
For example, today 3 people sat around and played UNO in the front of the box office, including the student supervisor who admonished me. One of the girls had actually taken her phone off the hook so that she wouldn't have to answer calls while playing Uno! So I was left to answer call after call. That's the kind of thing that's been going on.
Thats EXACTLY how I am too!! Im the type of person who wont be treated like **** just because Im not as high up as someone else.
Thats why I have my own business, I got sick of working with *******s. Now I get to be the *******
. jkjk, I treat everyone as if they own the dang business! Thats why I have very respectful employees, gotta give it to get it, right?