Could you spend your life with someone whose occupation you did not respect?

#16
sarajane said:
Depends what you mean by respect. In terms of salary or ethos?
I would find it hard to be with someone who did something that I was opposed to ethically.
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Completely agree with Sarajane - personally i'm not too interested in salary but couldn't have a relationship with someone whose job was something I opposed/disliked or whose way of making money could possible be illegal/unethical or could bring dangerous repercussions.
 
#17
I would respect most professions, but I would have a hard time being married to someone whose profession I was uncomfortable with: male stripper, porn star, whaler, testing cosmetics on animals, etc.

I am a bit of a germophobe as well, so anyone working at a meat packing plant, sewer, landfill, etc. is also out, lol.
 
#18
I have an acquaintance/friend whose husband makes his living exploiting immigrants....they live VERY well, but I am not jealous at all. I think what he does is just wrong....I could not live with that.

AJ
 
#19
I could not be with someone who worked in an area that I was against such as vivisection. We would have nothing in common and I would not want to spend time with someone who worked at something I was so against. xx
 
#21
mmm, I found my ex's occupation quite difficult. He was the State prosecutor, that wasn't the problem it was his attitude when he got a conviction. He had no mercy at all for the defendant or the family. He used to laugh at mothers crying when their sons went to goal. Now I know if you break the law you have to pay the price but if it was my son no matter what he had done I would still be crying & heartbroken when they took him away as I think most mothers would.
He was just a heartless man in many ways!
 
#23
Jayne1 said:
That says a lot about the guy, doesn't it? :sad:
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Big time!!!! :yes: The man that I thought I was marrying was someone entirely different :sad:
The real tragedy behind that story was that the guy in question actually committed suicide in gaol, my ex felt no remorse, I was totally gutted for a long time just to think that someone in my life bore some responsibility UGH!!!!!
 
#24
Of course not. It isn't my place to judge the occupation of the majority of people and I do not. However, for two people to be life partners, their goals and values have to be similar. If someone had goals so drastically different from mine that I couldn't respect their occupation then we wouldn't be a good match to be together for any length of time.
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This puts it very well!

A large part of the problem I had with my ex was the fact that he didn't follow his goals and not only had a crappy job but ended up getting demoted even lower. I understand sometimes we have to work undesirable jobs and work up to the better ones but in his case it wasn't going to change.

I have to feel proud of the person I'm with. To me a man's job is a large part of him. I know that might sound shallow, but it's not just about money. It's about having a career and having pride in what you do. I have friends with all kinds of jobs and it makes no difference but when it comes to a SO it DOES make a differnce to me.
 
#26
As long as he is making an HONEST living (i.e. not doing something cruel or illegal) I could be fine with whatever he was doing.

Two years ago, I was in a job "crisis" (had finished an internship and couldn't find a full-time job in the area) and thought I was going to have to move away from him. He told me that we'd make it work, and that he'd go too and be a garbage man if he had to do it to be with me. That told me a lot about BF and I realized what a wonderful man he is!
 
#28
Short answer, no. Like many have said I think a job reflects on your character- so I would want someone driven and motivated. This is not about the money, but about his ambitions and his respect for himself and me
 
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