But to use myself as an example, My mom reallyyyyyyyyy spoils my sister and me. She let us fly to other states just to see my favorite band, lets my sister and I plan vacations, and has been "rewarding me" with tons of Coach since 7th grade. BUT the thing is, I actually am a really good kid with high aspirations who has been taking AP classes since freshman year and my sis was valedictorian. I'm pretty sure if I failed all my classes she wouldn't "reward" me.
If your going to use the reward system..show the kids the reward first. They will work harder to achieve that goal. If she wants the purse she will work harder to get it.
Some kids though are just not straight A kids. But are good kids. I know kids that are very respectful and good but struggle in school.
Personally, I would hang onto it and see how she does and give it to her for her middle school graduation instead of christmas. Maybe a charm for christmas then show her what she can have if she does good the rest of the year.
My oldest (now a sophomore in college) was valedictorian too and got a full 4 year scholarship to college. Of course we are proud of her.
BUT, all three of my girls (even my B student) have Coach purses (nothing too crazy, just small ones). I reward all three of them for the gifts they have whether it be brains, music, kindness, etc... We don't base our rewards on grades alone. Honestly, our B student works harder for her grades than her sisters do for their A's.
I bet your mom rewards you because you are a good kid, not just because of your A's. Try not to get too hung up on the grades. It really means nothing when you are done with school (college). People could care less when you are in the real world. Trust me on that one, I just graduated from college myself and my employer could care less that I was on the Dean's List.
i'm sure it's not JUST because of my grades. but my whole coach collection is worth almost $2K. for example, for my high school graduation gift I want a $800 bag. i'm pretty sure she wouldn't buy me it IF i wasn't in the top of my class. my mom is really adamant that i don't get a job until college because she wants me to only focus on school. actually, my sister is in college right now and still hasn't had her first job. so it's hard to say it's not just based on grades. i mean obviously she probably just uses this as means of justification for spoiling me, but i would try hard in school nonetheless. i would feel rather inadequate not putting my 100% into anything.
grades matter to a certain extent. if someone were to say, graduate from Harvard, i am quite confident that it would make a difference.
Okay, I'm gonna go tell my cousin who is trying to get into medical school that grades don't matter.I'm sorry but you sound like you need a serious reality check. Then again, you're just a kid. Someday you'll learn (hopefully).