Celebrity Athelete talks about "Groupie Love"

  1. [​IMG][​IMG][​IMG][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]On His Mind: Groupie Love [/FONT]
    [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]NFL player Will Demps, 27, says some women's scheming ways can sideline a pro athlete's attempts to score a lasting commitment [/FONT] Thursday, August 16, 2007
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    By Will Demps as told to Chee Gates

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    I've gotten far in my career using my strength and athletic skill. When I'm in game mode, I'm focused-no distractions, no lapses of concentration. But when it comes to groupies, I am constantly reminded just how weak my flesh can be.

    Groupies are everywhere I go. They study the football schedule for whatever city I'm in that week and after a game, will stand shivering in the cold, waiting for me to walk by and take notice. Or they go to the club ahead of time, scheming to cop VIP access. They hang in packs like vultures at the venues thick with players, posed with breasts spilling out of their shirts.

    They try to look innocent, and if I happen to strike up a conversation with one, she might pretend she doesn't know that I play for the New York Giants, but I know better. In fact, most groupies have done their research beforehand, using Google to find out my salary and other personal details. They don't care to get to know me as a person or share my triumphs and pains. All they see are dollar signs and a free ride.

    When I first broke into the league in 2002, I entertained these kinds of women-I called them Breezies because they're so fine even the wind around them stops. It was hard not to. They were relentless in their pursuit: In exchange, they wanted money, jewelry, vacations and celebrity status. I've had my share of fun with these types. I've flown beautiful women with agendas to big games and events across the country. I've wined and dined them at the fanciest restaurants, knowing that I could've shared my bed with three at a time if I had wanted to.

    Unfortunately, the fun is never free. After the party dies down and the glitter wears off, I'm left to deal with the emptiness inside and the fact that I've given in to temptation. In my heart, I know God wants better for me. After years in the league, I realized that my behavior and mind-set were just as flawed as the groupies' I encountered. In our search for happiness and security, we wound up playing each other.

    Some of these women attach themselves to athletes and celebs because they have low self-esteem, no direction and no ambition- except to work the circuit. The only long-term deal many are looking for would be getting pregnant and scoring child support.

    In the end I know these women can never fulfill a need beyond my libido. What I really crave is love, tenderness and understanding-an intimate partnership with a woman who could become my wife. I'm far from perfect and all of this is easier said than done. But if God gives me the strength to ignore my physical urges and temptations, I know I can have that kind of relationship.

    Most nights I stay away from the splashy scene. Removing myself from temptation makes that kind of error less likely. And I surround myself with like-minded players (there are a few). I don't participate in a locker-room competition with other guys. As a result, I see myself growing and changing. I'm making smarter choices every day, and that's what life is about.

    What do you think of Will and the women he encounters? Share your thoughts below.
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  2. Groupies have been around athletes and celebs for years. I see them way too much.

    It is sad how the women actually think the guys like them.
     
  3. Do they think that they really like them, or is it as calculated as Will thinks? I think there could be 2 types of groupies-professional ones and then the naive ones wgo have that knight in shining armour fantasy. Idon't think those ones last long. But its amazing what some women will do for a man(famous or not).

    But I admired this guys honesty, and he is GORGEOUS:graucho:
     
  4. Oh wow, what a powerful article. How very brave of him to recognise this error in his life AND take the power to change this - for the better. (Thanks for sharing! Very inspiring!)

    But yes, sadly, even in our normal day-to-day lives, we can all name a woman whom we see as a 'gold digger'.... someone whos only drive in life is fortune. Not of the heart. But of possessions, money and raised social status.

    I dont think we can be naive to think they're a dying breed. Because as Will himself discovered, the temptation is just too strong...

    But hopefully, they're getting easier to spot!

    But at least he realises that not all women are like that. :tup: