I too have had a step parent mother (2) and a step father .. So i'm aware of what its like to a step child... Also having the step mothers yes both from H3LL I vowed to never be one. Step parent from H3ll that is. If anything i'm more lax with my kids because of it. One because I dont feel they should do everything while the others sit on their butts and do so much less. I didnt have a part in their parenting and although now at 17, 18 its hard to insill values on these kids I keep at them. They dont listen to me so I have come to the point of not wasting me energy. It bothers me that Dad doesnt see it. But he pays the bills so my hands are tied. I am for taken granted of by his kids and feel I am then maid but I stand it as long as I can before I have to clean because I cant stand it. I have never had to deal with kids that dont do as they are asked. My kids move when I tell the to I take away what they are doing ... I love controlling the internet and cell phones The other two just have no respect and it is showing, trust me if I saw this side before moving in I would still have my own place. Too late for that now! these kids dont respect their father or their mother. What hurts me most is that and they dont respect what he works hard for, a roof over their head and food on the table. He puts his life on the line everyday to provide for them and that dont see it. They have had their way for so long they hate it now that they cant get away with as much now but they still do. I know i'm just venting.. i'm not asking for a resolution because its too late for that. Its more about me dealing with this for the next 4-5 yrs while they finish school.college.